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[Alphabetical Order] A Dictionary of Papa Vocabulary | Complete Guide to Slang and Emoji Meanings

[Alphabetical Order] A Dictionary of Papa Vocabulary | Complete Guide to Slang and Emoji Meanings

DaddyWhen you open an app or social media platform to get started, are you overwhelmed by the sheer volume of jargon and slang being used?

"What exactly does 'adult' refer to?"
"1.5. What does the strawberry (emoji) mean?"
"I don't want to get into trouble because of unfamiliar terminology."

Feeling that kind of anxiety is proof that you are trying to act safely.

This article provides a comprehensive dictionary-style guide to essential terms, slang, and emojis used in "sugar dating," allowing you to instantly search them using an alphabetical index.

You can quickly look up terms you're curious about, so bookmarking this will help you resolve any "What does this mean?" questions you have while working.

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Is it dangerous not to know sugar daddy slang? 3 reasons why slang is used.

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In "sugar dating," unique slang terms such as "allowance," "adult," and "meet-and-greet" are used on a daily basis.

There are three main reasons for avoiding direct expressions, as follows:

1
To avoid violating the terms of service
Many dating apps prohibit the use of their services for the purpose of financially compensated relationships. Using terms like "sugar daddy" or "financial support" carries the risk of account suspension, so euphemisms are often used.
2
To avoid trouble
Using explicit language in public can lead to being reported or attracting the attention of malicious users. Using coded language allows you to communicate your intentions only between the parties involved.
3
To lower the psychological barrier
Direct expressions like "receiving money" or "physical relationship" can be very off-putting. Using softer terms like "allowance" or "adult relationship" reduces the emotional burden.

If you don't know the slang, you might misunderstand the other person's intentions or unintentionally find yourself in a dangerous situation.

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To ensure safe activities, it's essential to understand basic terminology.

[Alphabetical Index] Quick Reference Guide for Finding Dad-related Terms

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This is an alphabetical list, useful when you want to know the meaning of a term right away.

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LineAppointment
Strawberry (emoji)
・Allowance
Or row・ Serious love
·keep
・業者
Sakura
・Healthy
・ Transportation expenses
Sa line・Cypoli
・Slim dad
New
God Dad
・Spe
・Immediately
Row・Dad
Landmines
・Tea rice
・Monthly
• Pickaxe (emoji)
・No cancellation
Each time
Trump Club
Na rowKnife and fork (emoji)
·transfer
Is line·development
PJ
・P
• Pink (building emoji)
- Spinning
Petit
Light
・Pochibukuro (small envelope for giving money)
・Ho-by
- Just messing around
Line(Not applicable)
Ya line(Not applicable)
Ra rowLove hotel emoji
Wa line・Divide
Alphabetic characters/numbers・With G / Without G
P (Dad)
PJ (PJ)
・0.5・1 etc.

[Most Important] Essential terms for sugar dating that you must know

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In sugar dating interactions, there are certain essential terms that are used particularly frequently.

If you don't accurately understand the meaning of these words, communication with the other person will break down, leading to significant misunderstandings.

Before starting any activities, be sure to understand the meaning of the terms introduced here and learn how to use them correctly.

Adults | The most important words indicating whether or not there is a physical relationship

"Adult" is the most important euphemism for having a physical relationship.

If it simply says "adults available," it means that the encounter is based on the premise of having a sexual relationship.

This term is frequently used in negotiations, and misunderstanding its meaning can lead to serious problems, so it's essential to remember it.

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"We'll start with tea, and if we get along well, we'll consider having adults too."
"Could we please have a meal without any adults?"

If someone's profile or messages state "looking for an adult," you can be fairly certain they are seeking a physical relationship.

Meeting for the First Time | Purpose and Flow

A face-to-face meeting refers to the first time you meet someone in person after exchanging messages.

The main purpose is to check if our personalities and styles are compatible, and to discuss specific details such as the future relationship and compensation terms.

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The initial meeting usually takes place at a cafe or similar place, lasting about an hour, over tea.

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"I'd like to meet you in person and chat for about an hour at a cafe."
"Would it be possible to pay 1 yen as compensation for the initial meeting?"

Since this isn't yet a formal date, it's common for the woman to receive a few thousand to ten thousand yen to cover transportation costs.

If both parties agree after meeting, they will then make plans for a date at a later date.

Allowance | How to refer to financial support

"Allowance" refers to the money paid by a man to a woman as compensation for a date in the context of "sugar dating."

It is sometimes expressed using terms such as "pocket money" or "support."

These euphemisms are used because app and website terms of service often prohibit language that directly suggests monetary transactions.

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"How about I give you the payment after each meeting?"
"Regarding the amount of compensation, let's discuss it when we meet."

The amount of compensation varies depending on the content and duration of the date, as well as the relationship between the two parties, and is generally decided through discussion during the initial meeting.

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To avoid financial problems, make sure to clarify the amount and payment method beforehand!

Tea and rice | A relationship that involves only meals together.

"Chahan" refers to a date that consists solely of a meal, signifying a healthy relationship that does not involve physical intimacy.

It's literally a relationship where we "just drink tea or have meals together."

This is used when you've just started "sugar dating" and want to get to know the other person well first, or when you want to engage in the activity without physical intimacy.

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"I prefer a relationship that is limited to casual conversation and sharing meals."
"First, we'll try a small amount of tea and rice to see how it goes, and if it works well, we'd like to request it regularly."
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Simply saying "tea" usually refers to a short date at a cafe, while "meal" usually refers to lunch or dinner.

The going rate for compensation varies depending on the type of meal, the restaurant's reputation, and the duration of the meal.

Regular | Establishing a continuous relationship

"Regular" refers to establishing a continuous relationship with a specific person.

Instead of looking for a new partner each time, I make an arrangement to meet with one person at a fixed frequency, such as a few times a month.

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"I'm looking for someone I can meet regularly, about four times a month."
"Is it possible to receive a monthly allowance for regular payments?"

There are two types of payment arrangements for the allowance: "per-meeting" payments, where payment is made each time you meet, and "monthly" payments, where payment is made in a lump sum at the end of the month.

Establishing a regular relationship eliminates the need to negotiate terms each time and offers the advantage of a stable income.

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For men, it probably also provides a sense of security knowing they can have a long-term relationship with someone they can trust.

[Complete Guide] Sugar Daddy Terms: Characters, Relationships, and Allowances

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Here, in addition to essential terms, we'll introduce a list of daddy-related vocabulary that will make communication even smoother.

This guide will provide a wide range of explanations, from terms related to the characters themselves to those indicating specific conditions concerning relationships and finances.

Understanding these terms will help you grasp the other person's intentions more accurately and confirm subtle nuances.

Terminology related to characters

There are terms used to describe the people involved in "sugar dating" (papakatsu) and the types of individuals one should be wary of during interactions.

There are various terms used to refer to oneself and others, as well as different terms categorized by economic status, personality, and behavior.

Knowing these terms will help you quickly understand what kind of person someone is and identify dangerous individuals to avoid.

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It's especially useful to remember as it's often used in profiles and reviews!

P (Dad) | A man who provides financial support

"P" is an abbreviation for "sugar daddy," a man who financially supports a woman in the context of "sugar dating."

It's mainly used to save characters in profile sections of social media and apps.

"Papa-katsu" is a relationship that takes place between a "P" (a male who provides financial support) and a "PJ" (a female who receives financial support).

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"Did you find a new P?"
"I'm looking for a great producer."

When simply written as "P," it generally means that the person is looking for a man who will provide financial support, or that they will take on that role themselves.

PJ (P-Jay) | Women who engage in sugar dating

"PJ" is an abbreviation for "sugar baby," referring to women who engage in "sugar dating" to seek financial support.

Similar to "P" (Papa), this term is often used in self-introductions on social media and app profiles.

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"I heard this app has a lot of high-quality projects."
"I'm a beginner at PJ (Project Leader), so please be kind to me."

The abbreviation "pj" has become widely used as a common term to concisely indicate that someone is engaging in "sugar dating" (papakatsu), and it can be assumed that users who use this term are understanding of sugar dating.

A wealthy dad | A dad who is particularly financially well-off

A "sugar daddy" refers to a man who is particularly wealthy and pays a large allowance.

They are characterized by offering prices higher than the general market rate, and providing high-grade meals and gifts, among other things, offering very generous financial support.

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"I met a sugar daddy and I get 5 yen every time!"
"He's a big dad, but the long hours might make him a good fit for me."

He is considered an ideal partner for many women engaging in "sugar daddy" relationships, and if a stable relationship can be established, it can lead to an improvement in their standard of living.

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Finding a wealthy sugar daddy isn't easy, and the competition is fierce, that's the reality...

Thin dad | A dad who doesn't have much financial leeway

"Hoso-papa" is the opposite of "Futo-papa" (fat daddy), and refers to a daddy who is not financially well-off and finds it difficult to pay a large allowance.

They tend to offer lower-than-average allowances and try to keep dating expenses down.

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"He's a skinny sugar daddy and only gives me 1 yen, so maybe I'll refuse next time."
"Even if he's a skinny dad, I'll work hard to raise him into a big dad."

They aren't necessarily bad people, but if your primary goal is financial support, their terms might not be suitable.

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When negotiating terms, it's also necessary to subtly assess the other party's financial situation.

Godly Dad | An ideal dad with excellent qualities

"God daddy" is a term used to describe a sugar daddy who is considered ideal by women engaging in "sugar dating" and offers exceptionally favorable conditions.

The term "sugar daddy" often refers not only to someone with high financial resources, but also to a person with excellent character, such as being gentlemanly, having good manners, and respecting the woman's wishes.

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"I found a godsend! He's agreed to a monthly contract for 10 yen each time. Maybe I can quit my job now (lol)."
"I desperately want to meet a divine father."

They keep their promises, don't make unreasonable demands, and pay their allowances in a smart and considerate manner, making them someone with whom you can build a stress-free and positive relationship.

How to meet a god dadCreating an attractive profileThis is important, so please check it out as well.

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The chances of meeting such an ideal dad are very low, aren't they? If I did meet one, I might not want to let him go.

Salty Dad | A disappointing dad who is cold in both his treatment and his pay.

"Salty daddy" refers to a daddy who not only pays less than the going rate but also has a cold and unfriendly attitude.

He's the complete opposite of a "god-like dad," tending to disrespect women and prioritize only his own convenience.

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"Today's producer was such a cold daddy that I only got 3 yen as payment..."
"The trick to dealing with salty food is to spot it and cut it off early."

Men who are curt in their messages or who don't consider your feelings at all are likely to be "cold sugar daddies," so it's best to assess them before getting too involved.

Dads who prefer chubby women | Dads who like plump figures

A "fat-loving daddy" refers to a father who prefers women with a fuller figure. While slender women are generally preferred in typical sugar dating, a fat-loving daddy is someone who finds a fuller figure attractive.

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"Meeting a dad who likes plus-size women has given me confidence in my body shape."
"There aren't that many daddies who are into chubby women, so if I find one, I might want to cherish him."

For women with a fuller figure, a partner who accepts them for who they are can be a good match.

Beginner P | A sugar daddy who just started sugar dating and doesn't know the going rate

A "beginner sugar daddy" refers to a sugar daddy who has just started using sugar dating apps or social media and is not yet familiar with the going rates or the general flow of the relationship.

While a kind approach can easily lead to building a good relationship, sometimes they may offer a price below market value without any malicious intent.

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"He was a beginner producer, but after I gave him a thorough lecture, he paid the going rate."
"A beginner producer could potentially become a wealthy sugar daddy depending on negotiations."
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Beginner sugar daddies can sometimes build stable long-term relationships by approaching it with a "nurturing" mindset.

New | Someone you've just met

"New" refers to someone you've recently met through sugar daddy apps, social media, or similar platforms.

It is generally used to refer to someone you have just met, or someone you have only met a few times.

In contrast to a "regular" relationship, this indicates a situation where you don't know each other very well yet.

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"I'm meeting a new producer tomorrow, and I'm kind of nervous because it's been a while."
"We generally request that meetings with new clients take place in a public place during the daytime."

Meeting many new people increases your chances of finding a partner with better qualities.

Landmines | Troublemakers to avoid

"Landmine" is slang for a dangerous person who is likely to cause trouble if you get involved with them, and should be avoided.

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It's a term used by both men and women.

Specific characteristics include canceling appointments at the last minute, failing to pay agreed-upon compensation, using abusive language or displaying an aggressive attitude, and persistently trying to extract personal information.

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"The producer I met the other day was a total no-no; he just ran off after we had sex. I wonder if I should post about him online. I hope it gets spread like wildfire."
"I want to avoid any landmines, so I want to clarify the conditions beforehand."

If you feel something is off during the messaging stage, or if you hear bad things about them, it's wise to distance yourself before getting more involved.

Gachi Koi | To have genuine romantic feelings

"Gachi-koi" refers to developing genuine romantic feelings for one's sugar daddy.

Since "sugar dating" is fundamentally a transactional relationship based on financial support, one-sided romantic feelings are likely to cause trouble.

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"I met P early on, and even though he's skinny, I'm seriously in love with him and I'm wondering when I should break up with him."
"I'm not looking for a serious romantic relationship. Please understand that this is purely a transactional relationship."

When a man becomes deeply in love with a woman, there is a risk that he may become overly possessive or engage in stalker-like behavior.

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I've heard of women falling deeply in love with men, but that must be incredibly emotionally draining...

Scammers/Fake Profiles | Malicious accounts used for solicitation and other purposes

"Scammers" and "decoys" are malicious accounts lurking on sugar daddy apps and websites that have ulterior motives other than genuine encounters.

These companies aim to lure users to other dating sites or adult sites, or to recruit them into investment scams or multi-level marketing schemes.

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"Isn't there too many vendors on this app?"
"I'm not a professional, so please don't worry. ^^"

Sakura are fictitious users created by the site operators to make the number of members appear larger than it actually is.

Be wary of profiles with unnaturally beautiful photos, those that try to exchange contact information too quickly, or those whose Japanese is strange.

Trolling | Annoying person who keeps sending messages but has no intention of meeting.

"Teasing" refers to annoying people who continue exchanging messages endlessly or try to extract personal information without any intention of actually meeting.

Their motives vary, from killing time to collecting women's profile information.

Their characteristics include avoiding concrete date plans and ceasing to respond when the conversation turns to compensation.

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"This person seems like they're just messing around. We've been messaging each other the whole time, and there's no talk of meeting up. I'm going to report them."
"Please refrain from making frivolous inquiries. I only want to meet people who are serious about meeting."

To avoid wasting valuable time, it's important to cut your losses once you determine that the other person has no intention of meeting.

Cyber ​​Police (Cyber ​​Police)

"SaiPori" is an abbreviation for "cyber police" or "cyber police."

This refers to a specialized police unit that deals with internet-related crimes.

In the context of "sugar dating," these entities are viewed with suspicion as being involved in monitoring and investigating illegal activities such as child prostitution and other forms of prostitution conducted through apps and websites.

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"Doesn't that guy seem like a cyber police officer? His questions are too detailed, and he doesn't seem interested in paying."
"Recent cyberpolitics are too easy to understand."

In particular, interacting with users under the age of 18 or using explicit language that clearly suggests prostitution increases the risk of being caught by cyber police.

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It is important to strive for responsible activities and take care not to violate any laws.

Terms related to relationships and conditions

There are many specialized terms used to describe the different types of relationships and dating conditions in "sugar dating" (papakatsu).

These are terms used to concisely describe whether or not there was a physical relationship, the method of payment, and the type of date.

Understanding and using these terms correctly will help prevent misunderstandings and allow you to smoothly find someone who meets your desired criteria.

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This is especially important when negotiating terms during the initial meeting, so be sure to remember it!

Healthy | A clean relationship without physical intimacy

"Healthy" refers to a clean relationship that does not involve any physical intimacy.

Used as the opposite of "adult," it refers to a relationship where you only enjoy activities like dining out, shopping, and going to the theater.

By including phrases like "seeking a wholesome relationship" or "no adults" in your profile, you can more easily match with people who are not looking for a physical relationship.

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"I'm hoping for a healthy relationship. Let's just have meals together."
"I want to build a healthy and long-lasting relationship."

The term "chahan," which refers to a relationship that consists solely of sharing meals, is a form of healthy relationship.

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This is an important keyword for those who want to avoid trouble and engage in sugar dating with peace of mind!

A purely transactional relationship | A relationship that serves a specific purpose without romantic feelings.

"A purely transactional relationship" refers to a businesslike relationship where romantic feelings are not involved, and the sole purpose is to achieve each other's objectives.

This type of relationship involves the woman seeking financial support and the man seeking enjoyable time with the woman, without seeking any deeper relationship or emotional connection.

This phrase does not directly indicate whether or not there is a physical relationship, but rather expresses one's stance on the relationship.

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"I'm looking for someone with whom we can build a good relationship based on mutual understanding and acceptance."
"I was trying to be casual about it, but that old guy keeps asking me really personal questions, it's so annoying (crying)."

This term is often used when someone wants to avoid a serious romantic relationship and prefers a more detached approach.

A system where you receive payment each time you meet.

"Tsudo" refers to a payment method where you receive payment each time you go on a date.

It's common to negotiate the amount and terms of payment each time you arrange to meet, and then receive the money in cash at the end of the date.

Even in a "regular" relationship where you meet a specific person on an ongoing basis, if payment is made on a per-meeting basis, it is referred to as "regular (per-meeting) person."

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"Can I pay each time?"
"I'd like 3 yen each time. I'll give it to you after we meet each time."

Unlike monthly payments where you are paid in a lump sum at the end of the month, this system is easy for beginners to understand because you are guaranteed to receive payment for each meeting you have.

Monthly contract | Contract type on a monthly basis

"Tsukigime" refers to a contract where the number of meetings and the total amount of compensation are determined on a monthly basis.

For example, it's common to agree in advance on a payment structure like "100,000 yen for two payments per month," with the payment being made in a lump sum at the beginning of the month.

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"I'd like to pay 200,000 yen per month, and meet four times a month."
"For monthly contracts, how about we provide the payment in a lump sum at the beginning of each month?"
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For women, it's a huge advantage to be able to expect a stable income every month, isn't it?

On the other hand, even if the man is unable to meet the agreed number of times due to his own circumstances, he is rarely asked for a refund. However, since trust is important, it is generally common to enter into such arrangements with someone with whom you have a long-term relationship.

Petit/Light | Refers to a short or casual date.

"Petit" or "light" refer to simple dates that last for a short time, typically around one to two hours.

Specifically, this includes activities like having tea at a cafe or having a light lunch.

Alternatively, it refers to sexual relations without penetration (actual intercourse), mainly involving oral or manual services, or caressing after undressing.

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"I don't have much time today, so could we do a short session for about an hour?"
"Would you be willing to pay me 5 yen for a casual date?"

The compensation for these types of dates tends to be lower than for regular dates, due to the shorter duration of the date.

Appointment | A date or an appointment to meet someone.

"Apo" is an abbreviation of the business term "appointment," and in the context of "sugar dating," it refers to the arrangement of a date or meeting itself.

It's often used when scheduling, such as "When should we schedule our next appointment?"

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"I have an appointment with my dad tomorrow, so I might be busy and my reply might be delayed."
"I'd like to schedule an appointment for the weekend. Would that work for you?"

Since it simply means making an appointment to meet, you cannot determine from this word alone whether the date will be a casual get-together or a more intimate affair.

When arranging an appointment, it's important to confirm not only the date, time, and location, but also the content of the date and the terms of compensation beforehand.

"Spinning around" | Meeting several people briefly each day

"Bunmawashi" is slang for the act of going on short dates with multiple people in one day to earn money efficiently.

While it offers the potential to earn a lot of money in a short amount of time, it also has drawbacks, such as the need for extensive time management, significant physical strain, and a tendency to become mentally exhausted.

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"I have plans to meet three people today, and I'm going full speed ahead! Thai Party is great, but it's incredibly tiring..."
"Let's make some pocket money by doing quick, short appointments."

Furthermore, it can become difficult to treat each person with sincerity, which may lead to relationships not lasting long.

G-spot (with or without) | Whether or not to use a condom (contraceptive)

"G" refers to rubber (condom), a type of contraceptive.

Therefore, "G included" means that a condom will be worn, and "G not included" means that a condom will not be worn.

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When engaging in adult relationships, these are extremely important points to confirm in order to prevent sexually transmitted infections and avoid unwanted pregnancies.

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"If there are adults present, please include G (presumably referring to a specific adult)..."
"No G-rated content is absolutely unacceptable. I'll report you to the club."

To protect your safety and your own health, you should never agree to anyone who tries to force you to have sex without cockroaches.

It is essential to confirm this via message beforehand or to clearly express your intentions when you meet in person.

Development | Moving from a casual, informal relationship to a more mature, adult relationship.

"Development" means moving from a casual, healthy relationship that initially only involved sharing meals to a more intimate, adult relationship that includes physical intimacy.

After several dates and when mutual trust has deepened, it's common for the man to ask, "Are you thinking about taking this further?"

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"We'll start with tea, and if we find it a good match, we'll consider expanding it further."
"This producer said he'd raise my allowance if things progressed! Of course he would!"

If you agree to this proposal, it is common for the terms and conditions to be reviewed, such as an increase in your allowance.

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If you do not wish to develop the project further, you need the courage to clearly refuse rather than giving an ambiguous answer.

Spec | A numerical term used to describe a woman's body shape.

"Spe" is an abbreviation of "spec," and is a term that mainly refers to information about a woman's body type, such as height, weight, and bust/waist/hip measurements.

This information may be included in your profile or you may be asked about it in a message.

In particular, the value obtained by subtracting weight from height is called the "spec value," and it is sometimes used as an indicator of whether someone is underweight or not.
(Example: If your height is 160cm and your weight is 45kg, your special value would be 115)

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However, this is just one guideline, and the appearance will vary depending on individual physique and muscle mass, so please use it only as a reference! Health comes first!

Immediately | Proceeding to the adult stage on the day of the initial meeting

"Soku" is a slang term meaning that a sexual relationship will proceed immediately on the day of the first meeting. It is also called "Soku on the first day" or "Soku on the first meeting," and is used when the man desires a quick relationship.

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"We generally decline requests for immediate service."
"If it's immediate, please pay at least 5 yen."

This is a high-risk activity for women, so it's safer to avoid it unless you trust the person very much. Make your decision carefully.

Keeping someone on the back burner | Continuing to contact them, but they're not a high priority.

"Keeping someone on the back burner" refers to someone who isn't your primary partner, but with whom you maintain regular contact to keep them connected. They're often seen as a kind of "insurance," a backup in case your relationship with your primary partner falls apart.

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"Let's keep that P."
"I have so many people on the back burner, I'm starting to forget who I've made appointments with."

This term is used by both men and women, and it can refer to a situation where both parties are in a "backup" relationship, or where only one party perceives it that way.

Switching partners | Switching to a relationship with a different dad

"Switching partners" refers to ending a relationship with a current sugar daddy and switching to another one with better terms. This is done to increase allowances or to find a more compatible partner.

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"My current P is getting stingy, so I'm considering switching."
"The new parking lot I'm switching to will give me 30 yen a month!"

To end a relationship amicably, it's more common to gradually reduce contact and fade out rather than suddenly blocking the other person.

Last-minute cancellation

"Dotacan" is short for "dotanba cancellation" and refers to the act of canceling a date or appointment at the last minute.

This type of annoying behavior can occur from either the male or female side and is likely to cause trouble.

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"My appointment today was cancelled at the last minute, so I have some free time now."
"I can't trust producers who cancel at the last minute, so I probably won't schedule appointments with them again."
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If you have to cancel at the last minute due to unavoidable circumstances, it's important to contact them as soon as possible and express your apologies.

Trial | Short-term trial date

A "trial date" refers to a short, informal date before a more formal date. It's often used to check compatibility and is considered less serious than a formal introduction.

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"Why don't we try it out and have tea for just 30 minutes?"
"I'd like to request 5 yen for the trial date."

One advantage is that it's quick and therefore less risky for the woman.

Prepayment/Postpayment | Timing of Allowance Payments

"Prepayment" refers to a system where payment is received at the start of the date, while "postpayment" refers to a system where payment is received at the end of the date.

While prepayment is considered ideal to prevent problems, the reality is that post-payment is more common practice.

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"Could I pay in advance?"
"For the first payment, post-payment is fine, but once we've established a relationship of trust, I'd like you to switch to prepayment."
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It's safest to request upfront payment from a new sugar daddy. Be wary of sugar daddies who insist on payment afterward.

Terms related to allowances and money

There are specific terms used to smoothly communicate the amount of the allowance, the payment method, and other financial terms.

This knowledge, including euphemisms to avoid direct expressions and terms related to expenses that arise in specific situations, is essential for preventing financial disputes.

In particular, clearly defining what is and isn't included in the total allowance is extremely important to avoid future disputes about what was said or not said.

Hotel expenses are not included in the allowance.

"Hotel charges will be paid separately" is an abbreviation meaning "hotel charges will be paid separately."

This term is used to refer to the cost of using a hotel for rest or overnight stays when engaging in "adult" relationships.

If this is stated, it means that the offered allowance does not include hotel expenses, which the man must pay separately.

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"If there are adults involved, the allowance is 3 yen, plus the cost of the hotel."
"I'm only considering a basic plan that excludes the hotel, so I will pay for the hotel separately."

Conversely, failing to perform this check could lead to problems, such as being asked to pay for hotel expenses from your allowance.

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When negotiating terms, be sure to confirm whether the payment is "separate from the hotel" or if the hotel fee is included.

0.5, 1, etc. | A number indicating the amount of the allowance (e.g., 1 = 1 yen)

In sugar dating interactions, coded language is widely used to indicate the amount of compensation using only numbers.

This is a unit where 1 is 10,000 yen, "0.5" means 5,000 yen, "1" means 10,000 yen, and "1.5" means 15,000 yen.

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"Can we schedule the initial meeting for session 1?"
"How about a dinner date for 2 people, or 5 if adults are involved?"

The reason such expressions are used is to avoid the risk of the app's operators detecting financial transactions and freezing the account.

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It's important to remember this unit, as failing to do so can lead to significant discrepancies in understanding monetary amounts.

Transportation expenses (car fare) | Expenses paid to the woman when meeting for the first time.

"Transportation expenses" or "car expenses" refer to the costs that a man pays to a woman who has taken the time to come and meet him for the initial meeting.

It's not meant to be a reimbursement of actual transportation costs, but rather more of a gratuity.

The going rate is generally between 5,000 and 1 yen, and it is often given at the end of the meeting.

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"In addition to a 1 yen allowance for the initial meeting, we will also provide you with transportation expenses separately."
"I'll give you 5 yen for transportation; could you at least have some tea?"

However, payment of transportation expenses is not mandatory and is at the discretion of the man.

Therefore, it's best to confirm in advance via message whether transportation expenses will be covered.

A small envelope (pochibukuro) | A thoughtful gesture of giving money in an envelope such as a New Year's money envelope.

"Pochibukuro" refers to the thoughtful practice of giving an allowance in a small envelope, similar to a New Year's money envelope, rather than handing over the cash directly.

Handing over cash directly in public can be awkward and draw unwanted attention, so this method is used for a more discreet exchange.

A man who prepares a small envelope for giving money can be seen as a gentleman who is considerate of women.

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"This P (person) always put the money in a small envelope; he was very gentlemanly. He might be a good choice."
"Is it alright if I give you the payment in a small envelope?"

While not a mandatory etiquette rule, whether or not someone shows this kind of consideration can be one way to gauge their character.

Meal expenses not included | Meal expenses are not included in the allowance.

"Meals not included" means that the cost of meals during the date is not included in the stated allowance. The man pays for the meals separately, while the woman receives the full allowance.

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"Please pay me 2 yen as an allowance, excluding meal expenses."
"If the cost of the meal is separate, then it's okay to go to a slightly more expensive restaurant."

Compared to a plan that includes meal expenses, this has the advantage of resulting in a higher net income for the woman.

Cash payment / Bank transfer | Method of receiving payment

"Handing over" refers to handing over cash directly during a date, while "bank transfer" refers to receiving payment via bank transfer. Handing over is more common, but bank transfers are sometimes chosen for long-distance relationships or regular contracts.

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"Please hand over the payment in cash."
"For monthly contracts, we also accept bank transfers."
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Since bank transfers require you to provide your full name and account information, make sure to carefully assess whether the other party is trustworthy.

Prepayment | Payment is received before the meeting.

"Prepayment" refers to a system where payment is received before meeting someone or going on a date.

To avoid trouble, an increasing number of women are making it a rule to pay in advance when dealing with someone they don't yet have a trusting relationship with.

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"Please pay for transportation expenses in advance before we meet."
"P's willingness to accept prepayment is a sign of trustworthiness."

Men who are reluctant to pay upfront may not be interested in paying you, so you can gauge their sincerity by how they respond.

[Account Ban Prevention] Meaning of Emojis and Slang on Sugar Daddy Apps

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On sugar daddy apps and social media platforms, there is a risk that messages containing monetary transactions or sexual content may be deleted, or accounts may be frozen (banned), due to monitoring systems (AI or manual checks) by the platform operators.

Therefore, it is common to avoid direct language and instead communicate using coded language or emojis that have specific meanings.

First, to give you an overview, we've compiled a list of the meanings and usage examples of major emojis and slang terms.

Emojis and slangmeaningShown fitted
🍓 (strawberry)Allowance amount (e.g., 15,000 yen)"Could I please have it with strawberries?"
☕ (Tea)Meeting at a cafe / Short date"Shall we have coffee next week?"
🍴 (Knife and fork)Dinner date (cha-meal)"How about dinner on Friday night?"
⛏ (pickaxe)Relationships involving adults"I'm thinking of including a ⛏ (foreigner)."
♣ (Trump Club)Dating clubs and sugar daddy relationships in general"Currently active in ♣"
🏩 (Pink building)Using a love hotel"By the time we get to the hotel"
💰 (money bag)General allowances"I'd like to discuss money."
⏰ (clock)Date time/hourly rate"How much for 3 hours?"
🏠 (house)Takeaway/Home Use"Home is difficult."

Strawberry emoji | Slang for numbers like 1.5 yen

The strawberry emoji is used as a code word to indicate the amount of payment.

This is a play on words with "ichigo" (strawberry), and represents the number 1.5, or 15,000 yen.

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"Can I pay for the initial meeting in (strawberries)?"
"I'm surprised there are still people who use words like 'strawberry' these days."

In this way, to avoid directly stating numbers, monetary amounts are sometimes expressed using wordplay or visually similar terms.

Tea emoji | Suggestion for meeting at a cafe

The emojis of tea or coffee cups mean "to have tea" and are mainly used to suggest meeting up at a cafe or a short date.

This indicates an intention to have a healthy relationship that does not involve physical intimacy, or to start by getting to know each other casually on the first date.

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"Let's start with some tea, please."
"We'll start with (tea), and if we get along well, we'll consider a regular subscription."

Because it's less intimidating than a meal arrangement, it's a common expression used when making an initial arrangement.

Knife and fork emoji | Suggestion for a dinner date

The knife and fork emoji is used to suggest a meal date, or a casual get-together.

An invitation like, "How about this weekend?" is a suggestion for a dinner date.

The tea emoji implies a date that lasts longer, such as lunch or dinner.

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"How about two (knife and fork) for the weekend?"
"I'd like to request 2 yen for the knife and fork service."

This is also mostly used as a suggestion for a healthy date that does not involve physical intimacy.

Depending on the type of restaurant, emojis of specific dishes, such as sushi or Italian food, may be used.

Pickaxe emoji | Refers to a date with adults

The pickaxe emoji is a bit ambiguous, but it's sometimes used as slang to suggest a date with an adult, meaning a physical relationship.

It is said that the "P" in "P-activity" is associated with a pickaxe, and therefore the emoji of a pickaxe, which is also a mining tool, came to be used as a substitute.

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"My body might be completely worn out after today's two appointments (with pickaxes)."
"Please make sure the pickaxe costs at least 5 yen."

It's a very roundabout way of expressing things, but it's a code word used in some circles to explore the possibility of a relationship while avoiding direct language.

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If this emoji appears, you need to carefully consider the other person's intentions.

The Trump Club emoji | Refers to a dating club

The club emoji in playing cards is slang for a "dating club" that connects wealthy men and women.

Unlike sugar daddy apps and websites, this service has a screening process for membership, which is said to lead to higher-quality encounters.

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"I registered with the club, and I was pleasantly surprised by how friendly the staff were."
"I guess the daddies you meet at clubs tend to be a bit more expensive."

Users who list "(Club) experience" in their profiles indicate that they have experience working in dating clubs and intend to show that they are accustomed to sugar dating.

Pink building emoji | Refers to a love hotel

The pink building or castle emoji with a heart symbol is used as slang to suggest a love hotel.

This is a very direct expression that alludes to a place where "adult" relationships take place.

If these emojis are used in a message exchange, you can assume that the other person strongly desires a physical relationship or is talking about it with that in mind.

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"If there are adults in your party, we will reserve the building for you."
"I was really scared when they almost took me straight into the building. Everyone, please be careful."

If you do not want that kind of relationship, it is wise to either clearly state your intentions or stop communicating with that person.

Manners and precautions when using "dad" slang.

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While "dad-related" slang can be a convenient communication tool, using it incorrectly can lead to trouble or offend the other person.

While it's certainly important to know about these things as general knowledge, you need to follow certain manners and precautions when using them in actual interactions.

To build safe and positive relationships, please keep the following points in mind.

Writing this directly in your app profile will get you banned.

While terms like "adult," "allowance," and "1.0" are understood among those involved in the "sugar daddy" lifestyle, you should avoid directly including them in your app profile.

The app's operators also monitor these coded terms, and if they are deemed to encourage monetary transactions or inappropriate encounters, users may receive warnings or have their accounts frozen (banned).

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Terms are ultimately for individual messages and should be used carefully, taking into account the relationship with the other person and the flow of the conversation.

In your profile, it's safest to focus on including information that conveys your personality, such as your hobbies and character.

Misunderstandings of meaning can lead to major financial and physical problems.

Not accurately understanding the meaning of "papa" (dad) slang can lead to serious problems.

For example, if you casually assume that meeting someone who is an "adult" will be a "date with a mature adult," you might find yourself being forced into a physical relationship on the day of the date.

Furthermore, if you negotiate payment without understanding the meaning of "hotel fee separate," it can lead to financial troubles, such as being later asked to pay for the hotel.

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If you encounter any words you don't understand, even slightly, it's crucial to check their meaning rather than just letting it slide. This is extremely important for your own safety.

Be wary of someone who uses too much slang.

While slang used in relationships with older men is generally used for smooth communication, you should be wary of someone who uses an excessive amount of slang in an unnatural way.

In particular, if someone starts using a lot of technical jargon in their very first message, before you've even established a relationship with them, they could be a scammer, a business, or some other "landmine" with ulterior motives.

They sometimes use slang to confuse beginners or to draw them into their own territory.

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If you feel even the slightest bit of unease or distrust during your interactions, it's wise to distance yourself and avoid getting too involved.

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ) about the use of the word "papa"

Here, we will answer common questions and concerns about "daddy" slang, especially those that beginners often have, in a Q&A format.

This content covers specific situations, including the scope of meaning of terms, how they are used in actual communication, and how to deal with unfamiliar words.

Please use these answers as a reference to approach communication in your sugar daddy relationship with greater confidence.

What exactly constitutes "adulthood"?

The term "adult" generally refers to all physical relationships, including sexual intercourse.

However, since the specific details are open to individual interpretation, it is important to align mutual understanding and expectations before getting involved in order to avoid problems.

Does using too much slang make the other person distrust you?

Yes, it is possible to give it.

The overuse of jargon can create a mechanical and impersonal impression, or lead to distrust, as if something is being hidden.

It is good manners to use appropriate language when necessary, and in everyday conversations, you should strive to use natural language as much as possible.

Is it okay if I ask the other person directly if I encounter a term I don't understand?

Yes, it's fine to ask.

In fact, it's more dangerous to proceed with the conversation while leaving the meaning ambiguous.

Asking honestly, such as "Excuse me, but what does XX mean?", can give a sincere impression and prevent problems caused by misunderstandings.

What happens if I use the wrong emoji?

Using emojis incorrectly due to a misunderstanding of their meaning can send unintended messages and lead to problems.

For example, there have been cases where using a "pickaxe" emoji because it was cute led to it being misunderstood as a date involving adults.

If you have already sent it, the best course of action is to immediately apologize by saying, "I'm sorry, I may have caused a misunderstanding," and clearly explain your original intentions.

Where can I find the latest slang related to "sugar daddy" relationships?

In addition to glossaries like this one, you can also find new slang terms in the #sugarbaby hashtag on X (formerly Twitter) and in social media posts from people with sugarbaby experience.

However, information on social media can sometimes be inaccurate, so it's important to always check multiple sources.

PATOLO's column regularly adds new terminology, so it's a good idea to bookmark it.

[Summary] Terminology is a weapon to protect yourself! Understand it correctly and have a safe sugar daddy relationship.

The specialized terminology and slang used in "sugar dating" are not merely slang; they are essential tools for smooth communication and avoiding trouble between the parties involved.

Having a precise understanding of terms related to "adults" and allowances is especially important as a defense mechanism to protect yourself from financial and physical risks.

Furthermore, knowledge of slang is helpful in complying with the app's terms of service and keeping your account secure.

By referring to the terminology explained in this article, you can correctly understand the other person's intentions and strive for clear communication, which will lead to safer activities.

Once you have acquired the correct terminology, the next important step is choosing a safe environment for your activities.

PATOLO has a high income bracket where more than half of the male members have an annual income of 2,000 million yen or more, and employs a strict screening system, which significantly reduces the risk of encountering scammers or problematic individuals.

We offer comprehensive support, including guaranteed travel expenses for initial meetings and robust safety measures for our female members. If you're looking to start a safe sugar daddy relationship, please register for free.

PATOLO's official website is here.

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I'm Airi, 28 years old, and have been involved in "sugar dating" for 5 years. I've met about 25 people so far and earned a total of 400 million yen. Currently, I earn an average of 10 to 15 yen per month, and I share my experiences and insights about sugar dating.

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