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Earn 10 yen a month through "sugar daddy" relationships: 8 tips for women to avoid being treated as beggars or scammers.

Earn 10 yen a month through "sugar daddy" relationships: 8 tips for women to avoid being treated as beggars or scammers.

"So, in the end, people who just eat tea and rice are treated like beggars or scammers, right?"

"Chameshi" refers to a style of sugar dating where the woman receives payment for meals only, without engaging in sexual relations.

It's possible to earn around 10 to 15 yen a month, but since over 8% of men want to have sex, it's a tough world where you'll be secretly criticized as a "beggar" or "fraud" if you make a mistake in your strategy.

Source:PATOLO's own research data / January 2025

This article explains eight behaviors that men tend to avoid, along with personal anecdotes, to help you find the right woman to be chosen.

By the time you finish reading, you should have a clear picture of how to "earn a living just by eating without being treated like a beggar."

Image of a writer Airi

Hi, I'm Airi. I'm 28 years old and have been doing sugar dating for 5 years now. I've met about 25 men so far and earned a total of around 400 million yen, mainly through meals and tea. In the past, I've also experienced many failures, such as awkward situations due to profile picture fraud and troubles with unpaid transportation expenses.

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What is "chahan" in the context of "sugar dating"? Let's first understand the meaning, going rates, and risks of earning money solely through meals.

What is "sugar dating" (or "papa katsu")?

Chameshi refers to a type of sugar dating that does not involve sexual relations.This refers to a style of work where one receives payment only for providing tea or meals.

At first glance, it might seem reassuring to think that you can earn money without using your body, butIn reality, the hurdles are much higher than you might imagine.

The reason for this is that many men involved in "sugar dating" tend to meet with the expectation that the relationship will deepen, and not many men simply want to have a meal together.

To make the tea rice dish a success,What kind of man to choose, how to tell him, and how to behave.These three elements form the foundation of everything.

Image of a writer Airi

When I first started meeting for tea and meals, I vaguely told people that we could just meet for meals, and they misunderstood, thinking I was going to become an adult eventually.
This experience made me acutely aware of the importance of clearly communicating that it is a casual meal from the very beginning.

What are "tea and rice scams" and "tea and rice beggars"? The real reasons why they get criticized on social media.

An illustration of a woman in her 20s with a dejected expression looking at her smartphone.

On social media and in sugar daddy communities, women who engage in this activity are often treated as sugar daddies."Tea meal scam" "Tea meal beggar"Such harsh words are exchanged.

These two words tend to be used interchangeably, but in reality, the points of dissatisfaction from the men's perspective are slightly different.

Knowing the difference will make it easier to determine which category you fall into.

What is a "tea and rice scam"? It's the act of prolonging a situation by hinting at the presence of an adult.

What is a tea-and-rice scam?The act of leading a man to believe that "something more will happen eventually," but ultimately only extending the relationship through meals.Refers to.

From a man's perspective, when he first heard about the woman, he thought "we can mature after a few dates" and paid for her transportation and allowance. However, if the relationship doesn't progress after several dates, he's more likely to feel like he was deceived from the start.

The typical patterns of women who are accused of being scammers are as follows:

  • The profile states "Consultation available," hinting at the possibility of having an adult partner.
  • The messages repeatedly use vague expressions like, "If we're compatible..."
  • Each time, I put it off by saying, "Let's wait until we get to know each other a little better."
  • They only accept the travel expenses and allowance, and then vaguely state that they will meet again.

If you're going to work in a casual setting,Clearly state from the beginning that you only want a meal.However, this is the best way to avoid being accused of fraud.

Ambiguity only leads to disappointing men's expectations.

What does "chameshi beggar" mean? It's a derogatory term for someone who begs for food without any regard for the value of the meal.

What is a tea-and-rice beggar?A woman whose motives are blatantly financial and who shows no respect for the person paying for her services.It is a derogatory term referring to [someone/something].

If the issue of "tea and rice scams" is about "disappointing expectations," then the issue of "tea and rice beggars" is about "not respecting the person paying." The cause is an attitude that makes men feel like they are "just being extorted for money and food."

Typical behaviors of women who are treated like beggars can be broadly summarized as follows:

  • They don't try to enjoy the conversation and focus solely on the food.
  • The moment you finish eating, say, "I'd like to pay the bill, please."
  • They only specify expensive restaurants and don't offer any suggestions or considerations themselves.
  • The thank-you LINE message is curt, or they don't send one at all.

Since the man is paying for the meal plus an allowance, in return for that...A focus on providing "enjoyable times" and "pleasant interactions." is required.

Common characteristics of women who are not invited

Both the tea-and-meal scammer and the tea-and-meal beggar are essentially"I haven't been able to give back to men."They have one thing in common.

Conversely, women who are not invited consistently adhere to the following three points.

  • Clearly communicate your activity style from the initial stage.
  • Make mealtime a space where the other person feels happy.
  • Minimize discussions about money and reciprocate with gratitude and consideration.

By simply being mindful of these three points, you can transform yourself from someone who gets criticized on social media to someone who men want to see again.

Image of a writer Airi

I may have been called a "charging scammer" behind my back in the beginning... Looking back now, I honestly regret that there were problems with my communication style and attitude. Because I learned from my mistakes, I want to reduce the number of people who go through the same thing.

Three honest reasons why men avoid women who are only interested in casual, everyday meals.

Three honest reasons why men avoid women who are only interested in casual, everyday meals.

Why do so many men prefer women who are active in casual settings?"Tea meal beggar" "Tea meal fraud"Will they criticize with such harsh words?

Actually, this isn't just a matter of emotion.

Understanding the psychology of men and the structure of the market will make the reasons clear.

What kind of relationships did you have with the women you met through PATOLO? (Survey Results)
Source: PATOLO's own research data (January 2025)

According to the results of PATOLO's investigation,Over 8% of men responded that they are in a relationship with the women they meet, with the understanding that they are also adults.

Therefore, the reality is that choosing to only have a meal is a minority option.

However, with the same data,It's also true that slightly less than 1% of men are in relationships without adult supervision.

In other words, while it's not impossible, this type of sugar dating is guaranteed to fail if you target the wrong person.

From here, I will explain three reasons why men tend to avoid casual meals.

1. Because I don't feel I'm getting a fair return on my money and time.

The reason men avoid eating tea and rice is,This is because they are making a rigorous judgment about whether it is worth the money and time they will spend on it.

The main factors that make it difficult for men to perceive value are as follows:

  • The conversation isn't fun, it's not engaging.
  • The woman is passive and only listens.
  • It's difficult to find special value in the dining experience itself.

Tea rice is,The enjoyment of conversation and a comfortable atmosphere are everything.

The most important factor in maintaining a relationship is whether you can make a man feel comfortable around you and want to see you again.

Image of a writer Airi

I myself have been dumped due to a lack of conversation, and I've come to realize that men look for "enjoyment value" in meals.

2. Because their attitude makes it obvious that their motive is financial gain.

The reason men avoid eating tea and rice is,There is a psychological tendency to strongly reject a woman when her motives for money become obvious.

The following are behaviors that men tend to perceive as being "only after money":

  • The conversation is curt, or they're constantly looking at their phone.
  • They try to leave the moment the meal is over.
  • They don't smile or react much.
  • They only talk about allowances and transportation expenses.

In a casual setting like a tea and rice meal, conversation and attitude are everything in determining satisfaction. Showing a lack of interest directly gives the impression that you're only there for the money.

To the other partyIt's important to make them feel like you're enjoying the time you spend with them.

Image of a writer Airi

I once had a date end because a man misunderstood my actions as being boring just because I glanced at my watch. It made me realize that men are very sensitive to even the smallest gestures.

3. Because it is deemed unlikely to succeed.

The reason why men don't continue the tea-and-rice meal is,This is because when a man feels there is no prospect of developing a relationship with a woman, he loses the psychological value of seeing her again.

The following are behaviors that tend to make men feel that they "cannot become any closer" to a woman:

  • The conversation was businesslike throughout.
  • They don't open up, and they don't smile or react much.
  • The distance between them remains constant, and there is no indication of any change in their level of closeness.
  • Their expression is stiff, and they don't convey a sense of reassurance.
  • The conversation is superficial.

Tea rice is,The process of gradually closing the emotional distance between people is emphasized.

Therefore, an attitude that creates an emotional barrier directly leads to the impression that "the relationship cannot be expected to develop further."

It's important to make the other person feel comfortable being around you and want to become closer to you.

Image of a writer Airi

In the past, I've built too many walls, which sometimes led to relationships fizzling out. It seems men often seek the feeling of getting closer to their partners.

Characteristics of women that make their dads think they're begging for free meals.

Characteristics of women that make their dads think they're begging for free meals.

Chahan is a seemingly light form of sugar dating that only involves meals, butBecause a man's satisfaction is so critically affected, it's a world where even a single misstep in attitude can lead to immediate dismissal.

The following behaviors are particularly sensitive points that men react to.

Let's take a moment to reflect and check if we're okay.

1. They only talk about money.

One of the biggest reasons why tea and rice dishes don't go well is,It's the fact that I keep asking about the payment before we even meet.

Men don't mind paying money itself, but they are put off by the words and actions of women.Is money their only motivation?The moment I think that, I feel a strong sense of caution.

Here are some points that tend to cause men to feel distrustful:

  • Let's talk about compensation before introducing ourselves.
  • The conversation begins with "How much will I get paid?"
  • Repeatedly demanding reimbursement for transportation expenses

Tea and rice is a style of dining where value is created in the time spent interacting with people, such as the comfort and sense of security that comes from conversation.

Therefore, if the focus is too heavily on money from the very beginning of the interaction,I feel like this child only sees me as a source of money, so I'll remove them from my list of people to continue seeing.

Image of a writer Airi

In the early days, I also had the experience of being told "We might not be a good match" and being hung up on because I kept asking "Do you have travel expenses?" every time I messaged someone.

2. Don't look like you're having fun while constantly looking at your phone during a date.

What men care about most on a casual date is:It's about whether they're enjoying the time they spend with me.

Therefore, when I see a woman frequently using her smartphone during a meal,The man will instantly feel distrustful.

Examples of feelings that many men experience include the following:

  • They might not be interested in me.
  • Are other plans more important?
  • Are you just planning to take your time and money and go home?

Chameshi is a relationship without adult ties,Everything a man perceives as valuable comes through in your attitude.

Women who maintain a relationship through casual conversation often keep their smartphones in their bags to avoid showing them to the other person, and make sure to communicate carefully and politely, responding with a smile as a basic principle.

Image of a writer Airi

I, too, have sometimes felt exhausted by unfamiliar topics and ended up using my smartphone to distract myself. When someone told me, "You didn't seem to be enjoying yourself," I realized the importance of attitude.

3. The thank-you LINE message after the date is sloppy or formulaic.

A thank-you LINE message after a date is:This is the first turning point that will determine whether or not we can continue with the traditional tea-and-rice system.

men areI'm very interested to know how you felt about today.Therefore, if this part is handled carelessly, it can easily lead to the end of the relationship.

The following are examples of elements that men tend to perceive as business-like:

  • "Thank you." (simple sentence)
  • A standard message that you send to everyone.
  • A bland text that makes no mention of the conversation, the food, or the atmosphere.
  • There are no topics or comments that seem likely to lead to anything further.

These messagesThis can lead to the conclusion that there is no romantic interest and that there is no need to continue the relationship.

On the other hand, even a short message showing the following kind of consideration can significantly increase a man's satisfaction.

  • I'll briefly mention the food I ate.
  • Add a brief comment about the part of the conversation that made the biggest impression on you that day.
  • Pick up on what the other person is talking about and reply, "I'd like to hear more."

Because Chahan is a style of meeting without adults,For men, value lies entirely in pleasant communication..

A thank-you LINE message can be the first thing that helps you make that decision.

Image of a writer Airi

I've had a long-lasting relationship with my dad because I immediately sent him a LINE message after getting home, mentioning things I thought he would appreciate. The way you express your feelings makes a huge difference in how long a relationship lasts.

Specific measures to avoid being seen as a beggar.

Specific measures to avoid being seen as a beggar.

Since Chahan is only a meal,The level of satisfaction a man experiences is the most important factor in determining whether the relationship will continue.

Here, we'll introduce practical, actionable strategies you can implement starting today to maintain long-term relationships, even if they're just casual interactions.

In each case, simply changing your mindset slightly can alter the outcome.

1. Highlight added value such as being a good listener in your profile.

The woman chosen for the tea meal isMore than their appearance, they are highly valued for their approachability and the comfortable atmosphere they create.

for that reason,Clearly demonstrate added value at the profile stage.This is the first step to success in the tea-and-rice cooking competition.

Many men who engage in "sugar dating" are constantly on edge at work, so when they meet a woman who is a good listener, they tend to feel that even just a meal together is well worth it.

Here are some examples of what you can actually include in your profile:

  • "I enjoy listening to people and I'm the type of person who often acts as a confidant."
  • "I would be happy if we could have a relaxed conversation while enjoying some delicious food."
  • "We welcome discussions about work and complaints as well."

Therefore, it is important to clearly demonstrate the benefits of meeting with you.

The appeal of chameshi (rice cooked with tea) largely depends on the contents,Being a good listener is a valuable asset.

Image of a writer Airi

I once changed my self-introduction from one that focused entirely on my requirements to one that emphasized my ability to be a good listener, and my popularity skyrocketed.
I realized that a single sentence in your profile can change your world.

2. Show interest by mentioning the other person's profile in your message.

Men who can maintain a relationship through casual conversation areI always choose women who show interest in me.

That's why men,I have a positive impression of women who carefully read my profile.

Conversely, if a woman receives a series of templated replies or replies that show she hasn't read the profile, she might feel like she's only being seen as someone who's interested in money, and she'll likely be ruled out as a potential partner.

For examples of messages that convey genuine interest in nature, please refer to the following.

  • "Your golf photos are wonderful, [Name]. Could you tell me what inspired you to start playing golf?"
  • "You often go to the △△ shop, don't you? It looks like it has a nice atmosphere, and I'd like to go there too."
  • "I'm very interested in hearing about your work. What led you to choose your current job?"

in this way,Just make a brief comment on the part the other person wants to talk about.And the man's reaction changes dramatically.

Image of a writer Airi

I always try to show that I'm paying attention to you, even at the messaging stage.

3. Negotiate compensation humbly and on a request basis.

Unlike adult dates, casual dates offer a limited range of benefits for men.When negotiating compensation, it's crucial to be polite and avoid being pushy.

If you quote an overly high price, men may feel that the bar has suddenly been raised, and their motivation to continue may drop sharply.

Here are some ways to phrase your payment:

  • "If possible, I would be grateful if you could give me XX yen as a token of your appreciation."
  • "For the first session, anything you feel is fine. If you decide to continue, we'd be happy to discuss it further next time."

Speaking in a way that respects the other person's judgment creates a sense of distance that doesn't burden the man, and as a result, increases the likelihood that he will actually give you the money.

In a tea-based meal,The psychological satisfaction it provides far outweighs the monetary value itself influencing retention rates.

Image of a writer Airi

At first, I was quite blunt in saying things like, "Even for a simple meal, I'd like at least XX yen," and I kept getting gently turned down.
I feel that simply softening the wording a little can make a huge difference in how men perceive it.

4. On the day, convey that you are enjoying yourself with smiles and reactions.

What men value most in a casual meal is,It's more about whether you feel comfortable being with them than their appearance.

In a meal consisting solely of tea and rice, the core of a man's satisfaction lies in:The atmosphere of the conversation, the level of comfort, and the degree of the woman's reaction..
When a man sees a woman having fun, he feels reassured, and the desire to see her again naturally arises.

Here are some actions to keep in mind when creating the right atmosphere on the day:

  • Gratitude and reactions to meals
  • Interest in the other person's recommendations
  • Praise the other person's choice
  • Good listeners and reactions
  • Focus on the conversation

Such behavior can give men the impression that dining with this girl is a pleasant experience.This will significantly increase the retention rate of the tea-based meal.

Image of a writer Airi

I used to get so nervous that my expression would stiffen, and men would worry and ask me, "Didn't you have fun?"
I think just always having a smile on your face makes a huge difference.

[Personal Experience] Success and Failure of "Sugar Daddy" Dating

[Personal Experience] Success and Failure of "Sugar Daddy" Dating

Here, I will share both my success and failure stories from my actual experience with "sugar dating" (dating older men for money).

Success Story: How I ended up with a monthly payment of 10 yen because someone said, "I enjoy talking to you."

Image of a writer Airi

I realized that even someone like me could succeed when I met a man in his 40s who was the CEO of an IT company.

This person was very busy and under a lot of pressure, and they strongly desired to relax, even if only during mealtimes.

For the first call, I focused on creating an atmosphere where the other person could talk comfortably. I made sure to show interest through polite nods and phrases like "I'd like to hear more," and I made sure to listen attentively without touching my phone.

A few days later, I was invited again, and on the second meeting, I was told, "Talking to you motivates me," and was offered a regular arrangement of 100,000 yen twice a month.

I was most pleased that the conversation itself was appreciated, and it was an experience that made me realize that everything about a meal and tea is about providing value through an enjoyable time.

Failure story: I gave off an aura that I wanted to go home early, and it ended up being a one-time thing.

When I first started sugar dating, I made a huge mistake during a casual dinner with a male executive in his 50s.

Image of a writer Airi

When I first started sugar dating, I made a huge mistake during a casual dinner with a male executive in his 50s.

I got flustered because I couldn't keep up with the conversation about hobbies, so my responses became subdued, and I unconsciously gave off the impression that I wanted to go home by checking my watch.

Perhaps he sensed that I was too conscious of getting paid, because he started to become more considerate towards me partway through the date. After the date, he simply said "Thank you for today," and then the relationship naturally fizzled out.

Now I understand that it was necessary to ask questions even about things I didn't know, to honestly ask for explanations, and to show empathy for the other person's perspective.

Even in casual settings like tea and meals, I learned that men choose women who value the time they spend with them.

Three characteristics of women who make a living solely from tea and rice

Three characteristics of women who make a living solely from tea and rice

The question of whether it's really possible to make a living just by serving tea and rice is a common concern for many women.

In conclusion, it is possible to make a living solely from tea and rice.

However, it's not as simple as just eating a meal, something anyone can do.

Here, we introduce three common characteristics of women who are actually receiving a steady stream of allowances just by providing tea and rice.

1. A woman who can satisfy her partner even in a short conversation.

The most important thing about tea rice is,The key is how much you can increase a man's satisfaction during a meal that lasts 1 to 2 hours.

Since there is no adult relationship involved in the tea and rice, the value that men perceive is almost entirely...The joy of conversation, relaxation, and comfortI will focus on this.

The following are characteristics of women who are likely to make others want to see them again, even after only a short time.

  • They have a wide range of topics to talk about.
  • A good listener and skilled at giving appropriate responses.
  • She can support and encourage what the man is saying by affirming it.
  • Rich reactions

In particular,Being a good listener is the most important skill in casual conversation.And most successful women naturally practice this.

The pleasantness of the conversation is the greatest value that justifies paying for a meal alone.

Image of a writer Airi

I met with a company executive in his 40s for just the first hour, and he told me that he felt refreshed after listening to him talk about his work.

2. A diligent woman who doesn't mind communicating with multiple people.

To make money from tea and rice,To have a stable source of income, you need to be diligent enough to manage multiple men simultaneously.

A woman who can handle situations like the following would be well-suited for casual conversation.

  • I can politely reply to messages from multiple men.
  • I'm good at scheduling.
  • You can keep track of who you talked to and what you talked about.
  • If I'm late in replying, I won't forget to follow up.

vice versa,If you're not good at replying to messages, are bad at keeping in touch, or tend to be careless in your interactions, it will be somewhat difficult to earn a stable income just from casual conversations.

While casual dates like tea and rice are often underestimated, the key to their continued success lies in thoughtful and careful communication.

Image of a writer Airi

I also make a point of quickly jotting down who I met, when, and what topics we talked about in my smartphone calendar!

3. A woman who is good at following up and has a sales mindset.

What women who have a stable income solely from cooking and eating have in common is,I have a lighthearted sales mindset.

The mindset that is suitable for casual conversation is as follows:

  • I can propose the next plan myself.
  • "I had a great time. Let's have tea again sometime," can be said naturally.
  • You can approach a man when he's in a good mood.

Since there's no romantic relationship involved in a casual get-together, it becomes harder for the man to find a reason to ask you out again.

That is why women,Creating a positive and pleasant atmosphere to encourage a return visit will make men feel more comfortable and more likely to come back.

Women who can approach clients in a friendly manner while maintaining a respectful distance, rather than using high-pressure sales tactics, naturally see an increase in regular clients, resulting in a more stable income.

Image of a writer Airi

Instead of being passive, I took an active approach, and there were times when we were able to arrange the next meeting on the spot.

Tips for making money through sugar dating that only involves tea and meals

Tips for making money through sugar dating that only involves tea and meals

To earn a stable income just from tea and rice, it's not just about who you meet,You need to strategically organize your communication methods, pricing, and relationship-building strategies.

Here, we'll explain three tips that successful women in the "chameshi" (tea-and-rice) business always practice.

1. State "meals only" in your profile.

It's a good idea to write "meals only (tea and rice preferred)" in your profile from the start.This is an important step in preventing mismatches.

If you start communicating with someone whose goals are different from yours, your desires and the man's expectations will clash.You tend to get involved in unnecessary troubles.

The key to writing it is to convey it gently, as shown below.

  • "I'd be happy if we could get to know each other better just by having a meal together."
  • "I'm not thinking about a romantic relationship; I just want to cherish peaceful and enjoyable times."

It's possible to draw a line without creating a strong sense of rejection, but also without causing misunderstandings.Therefore, this is a way of communicating that is easily accepted by men as well.

Image of a writer Airi

I also used to specify "meals only" in my profile to avoid people with ulterior motives. At that time, only people with similar intentions remained, which made things much easier mentally.

2. Set your desired allowance slightly lower than the market rate.

For men, the hurdle to ask someone out for a relationship that only involves meals is high.Setting the initial payment slightly lower than the market rate is an effective strategy.

First, increase the opportunities to meet and build a good relationship. Men tend to judge based on satisfaction, so the price is more likely to increase from the next time onwards.

When communicating, using gentle and humble expressions like the following is effective.

  • "For your first visit, whatever you feel is appropriate is fine."
  • "If we meet and get along well, I'd be happy to discuss things further next time."
Image of a writer Airi

In my experience, when I initially offered a high price, I often received messages, but the process rarely progressed to actually meeting someone.

3. Don't rely on just one person; have multiple regular sugar daddies.

To stabilize the rice dish,It's important to meet with multiple people rather than relying on just one.

This allows you to diversify the risk of your income being interrupted due to one person's circumstances, leading to greater mental and financial stability.
Furthermore, the experience of meeting various men hones your communication skills and helps you build better, long-term relationships with more suitable partners.

When creating multiple "dads," the ideal balance is as follows:

  • Two or three men I can meet regularly
  • Keeping a few men around for one-off encounters
  • Adjust the schedule evenly within reasonable limits.

When you combine them like this,With a stable income, you can work with peace of mind.

Image of a writer Airi

There was a time when I was dependent on one person and my income dropped to zero. Learning from that mistake, I started securing multiple sources of income, and by diversifying my risk, my income has become stable.

3 Sugar Daddy Apps Where You Can Have Tea and Meals

3 Sugar Daddy Apps Where You Can Have Tea and Meals

To make the tea rice dish a success,Choosing the right app is very important.

Using an app with a large number of men looking for casual encounters can lead to mismatches from the start, causing trouble and stress.

Here are three apps that are a good match for "chameshi" (a Japanese term for a casual, informal gathering), and where you'll find a certain number of men willing to meet just for a meal.

This article clearly explains the characteristics of each ingredient and why they are suitable for making chameshi (rice with tea).

Pater

Pater
Image source:Paters
MembershipCumulative total of over 260 million people
Price Women: Free
Men: From 12,000 yen per month
Age groupFemale: Early 20s
Male: 30s to 50s
Identification必要
Monitoring system24 hours 365 days
Companyamica Inc.

PatersThis sugar daddy app boasts one of the largest user bases in Japan, with men of a wide range of ages registered.

The reason why it pairs well with rice cooked with tea is,One reason is that many business people, managers, and company executives, due to their busy schedules, seek women they can meet casually for meals.

There are a certain number of men who think, "Let's just have a quick cup of tea first," or "I'd like to meet for a short time after work," so it's easy for women who want to meet someone casually over tea, and it's also suitable for those looking to find their first partner.

Instant meet-up featureOne of the advantages of using Payters is that it makes it easier to arrange one-off casual get-togethers.

Image of a writer Airi

I first met my regular sugar daddy through Paters. Because of the large number of members, I definitely feel there are more opportunities to meet men who are open to casual encounters.

Click here for the official Paters website.

Love & (Love An)

Love & (Love An)
Image source:Love&
Membershipprivate
Price Women: Free
Men: From 5,980 yen per month
Age groupFemale: 10s to 20s
Male: 30s to 40s
Identification必要
Monitoring system24/365 double monitoring by AI and human eyes.
CompanyBlueborn Co., Ltd.

Love& isThis sugar daddy app is characterized by its unique video call function.

Designed with safety and efficiency in mind, it has a reputation for being safe and easy to use even for those new to sugar dating.

The reason why Labuan goes well with rice is,One advantage is that you can get a feel for the other person's personality through a video call before meeting them in person, making it easier to avoid any unpleasant experiences..

When it comes to tea and rice, first impressions and feelings are extremely important, so being able to make that judgment beforehand is a huge advantage.

Image of a writer Airi

In Labuan, I only met men after actually talking to them on video call and feeling that I could comfortably go out to eat with them.
Being able to check the atmosphere beforehand was a great source of reassurance back then.

Love&'s official website is here.

SugarDaddy

SugarDaddy
Image source:SugarDaddy
Membershipprivate
Price Women: Free
Men: From 8,000 yen per month
Age groupFemale: 10s to 20s
Male: 30s to 40s
Identification必要
Monitoring system24/7/365
CompanySynapse Consulting Co., Ltd.

SugarDaddy is one of the sugar daddy dating sites.This is a long-established service known for attracting particularly high-quality men.

The reason why it pairs well with rice cooked with tea is,One notable point is that 36% of the male members are company executives, meaning nearly 4% of the men are business owners.

High-income men tend to be relaxed and gentlemanly, and they often find value in the act of dining and conversation itself.
Therefore, a notable characteristic is that many of them are satisfied with just a simple meal.

Image of a writer Airi

On SugarDaddy, you often meet calm, business-oriented men, and many of them are content with just having a relaxed meal and conversation.

SugarDaddy's official website is here.

Frequently asked questions about "sugar daddy" relationships (breaking down the rules, going rates, the idea that meals alone are impossible).

Q&A about meals and snacks in sugar daddy relationships

We have compiled a concise and easy-to-understand summary of frequently asked questions about Chahan (a type of Japanese rice dish).

Even women trying their hand at making chameshi (rice with tea) for the first time can grasp the basics by reading this.

Q1: What does "chameshi kuzushi" mean? What is the solution?

It's when a man initially says he just wants a meal, but then later asks for a sexual relationship.

Since men often feel that "we've become close, so it should be okay" and then make advances, clearly defining boundaries from the beginning is key to avoiding trouble.

The reason why the "chameshi kuzure" (a Japanese term for a casual, unbalanced meal) is likely to occur is,After the 4th or 5th dinner dateThat's right. Once you've met a few times and built a relationship of trust, the man will start to expect "one more step."

To deal with this situation, keep the following three things in mind so you can decline without damaging the relationship.

  • At the first stage, make it clear that "I'm only interested in sugar dating for meals."
  • Don't fall for vague invitations (like "Let's chat in the hotel lounge").
  • When declining, you can say something like, "I would enjoy meeting you, but I cannot change my approach to my activities," without being critical of the other person.

If they persist, don't force yourself to continue the relationship. Use the block function or report them to the administrators to create distance as soon as possible.

Q2: What is the going rate for one sugar daddy encounter?

There is some variation depending on the region and the attributes of the men,The going rate for a meal of rice with tea is around 5,000 to 15,000 yen.

The most successful approach is to start with a slightly lower setting and gradually increase it if you continue using it and it suits you.

Q3: What if someone says, "Having tea and rice is out of the question"?

To put it simply, the idea that tea and rice is "impossible" is not the case."minority"That's all.

According to PATOLO's own research, over 8% of men want a relationship that includes adult activities, but the remaining 1-2% said that a relationship that only involves meals is also acceptable.

Source:PATOLO's own research data / January 2025

In other words, if you increase the number of people you meet, you'll definitely find plenty of men who are okay with casual dates.

Men who say "That's impossible" are only interested in sex from the start, so you're not compatible.

The best approach is to clearly state "Looking for meals only" in your profile and only connect with men who share your interests from the start.

Q4: How can you tell if a man is okay with casual conversation and meals?

Men who are open to casual conversation can be identified in three stages: their profile, messages, and the initial meeting.

Signatures at the profile stage

  • "I'm looking for someone to have a meal with" and "someone to talk to."
  • People aged 40 and over who are in management or executive positions (those with ample free time)
  • The hobbies section is quite extensive, and it seems like there are plenty of topics to talk about.

Signs at the messaging stage

  • Instead of confirming the conditions, they start talking about themselves and the woman's profile.
  • They have a willingness to take their time building relationships, saying, "I hope we can become friends slowly."
  • They don't immediately specify a hotel location or a private room.

Signing the documents at the first meeting

  • 8% of the conversation is about work or hobbies, and they never bring up dirty jokes.
  • After paying the bill, they naturally suggest meeting again, saying, "Let's definitely meet again next time."
  • The next day, I received a thank-you message saying, "Thank you, I had a great time."

If a man shows signs in all three stages, there's a high probability he's open to a casual get-together.

Conversely, if there are even one suspicious signs, it's safer to look for other candidates rather than pursuing the matter further.

Q. What would you do if someone called you a beggar?

When you're called a beggar, the most important thing isDon't take what the other person says too seriously.It is that.

Men who use this term often blame the gap between their expectations and reality on the woman, and it's not the case that the woman is entirely to blame.

However, if you look back and realize there are aspects of your own attitude that you should reconsider, it's a good opportunity to re-evaluate your style of activity.

Please consider how to calm your mind and what your next steps should be in the following steps.

  • I distanced myself from the person who said it (blocked them, stopped contacting them).
  • For just one day, reflect on whether your actions revealed any blatant motives for financial gain.
  • Try rewriting your profile and messages to be a little more careful.
  • Switching to a different app and a different persona to refresh your mindset and make a fresh start.

Just because someone said it to you once doesn't mean you're a beggar.

Just review it a little, then move on. That's all it takes to continue your casual sugar daddy activities.

Summary: Become a woman who doesn't get called a "fraud" or "beggar" through casual sugar dating.

While sugar dating that only involves meals may seem simple at first glance,In fact, strategy and choosing the right opponent are the most important factors.

The keys to success can be broadly divided into the following five points:

  • Which man should I target?
  • Can you convey sincerity and added value through your profile and messages?
  • Can you create a pleasant and enjoyable atmosphere during the meal?
  • Can you consistently show gratitude and provide thoughtful service?
  • Can you maintain a comfortable distance?

Tea rice is,If done correctly, this style will support your life and give you peace of mind.

For women who want to engage in sugar dating with peace of mind, PATOLO is highly recommended.

PATOLO employs a franchise system, meaning that women can meet men through introductions from affiliated high-end clubs, thus reducing the risk of being pressured into sexual encounters.

More than half of the male members are business owners or executives with an annual income of 2,000 million yen or more, and the fact that many of them are "men with plenty of time for conversation" who can enjoy meals together is another reason why it is chosen by women who prefer casual meals.

Try starting your own casual sugar daddy/sugar baby activities at your own pace in a safe environment where you won't be called a "beggar" or a "scammer."

PATOLO's official website is here.

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I'm Airi, 28 years old, and have been involved in "sugar dating" for 5 years. I've met about 25 people so far and earned a total of 400 million yen. Currently, I earn an average of 10 to 15 yen per month, and I share my experiences and insights about sugar dating.

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