*This article is a rewritten column version of the article "Question: Why can't the people paying for 'sugar dating' just go to a regular brothel?" originally published on November 29, 2022.
Date created: November 29, 2022
Oseki
I ate three pieces of bread in quick succession this morning.
The coffee milk was way past its expiration date.
I was being overconfident, thinking, "Well, it'll probably be fine,"
I'm genuinely fine and really realizing how strong my stomach and intestines are.
This is Seki from PATOLO Support.
Airi
Why do people who want to develop a relationship on the same day use apps instead of prostitution?
Are you looking for someone?
Airi
Even though they met through a sugar daddy app,
Women who refuse to have a physical relationship are scams.I was suspected of that...
DaddySo I got motivated to try the app, and went ahead and installed it!
I matched with someone and we started communicating, but everyone I talked to was looking for an adult on the day of the meeting.
At times like these, the above questions will likely arise.
(I see this often online, and I also receive inquiries about it as a genuine question.)
ToDay,
Why do men who want to become "sugar daddies" choose sugar dating over going to prostitutes? What's the psychology behind it?
I'd like to write about this topic.
Uncle
Thank you, Oseki-chan, for speaking on my behalf...
Oseki
I'm pretty harsh!
If you want to first understand the mechanism of "sugar dating,"The basics of "sugar dating" and how it differs from the sex industry.For more infomtions.
The basic difference between sugar dating and prostitution
| Customs | Daddy | |
|---|---|---|
| Remuneration format | Fixed and clear time and fees | There is a going rate, but it fluctuates depending on the person and the content. |
| sexual services | Required depending on the industry | Not required |
| How to do it | You belong to a specific store and are on standby on your workdays (transportation is often provided). | I communicate with the other party and go there myself at the agreed-upon date and time. |
| Rebate rate | Varies depending on the industry and store. | 100% mine |
| OffFollow surface | They will handle any troublesome customers. | There are no staff members present, which can be confusing. |
Characteristics of the sex industry
The sex industry is a business that aims to provide sexual services.
The time and service details are clearly defined.
① The pricing structure is clear, with rates set per minute or per service.
② In the sex industry, there is little sense of being in a relationship, and services are provided within a limited time and scope.
③ Prostitutes often deal with multiple customers in a single day.
You'll likely find yourself feeling more of a business-like relationship more often.
👇Some people have this impression
👇From the perspective of working women, some feel that sex work is easier in terms of the mental burden.
Characteristics of sugar daddy
"Sugar dating" is a relationship where a man (sugar daddy) and a woman (sugar baby) meet to fulfill each other's needs.
The "dad" provides financial support to the woman, and in return, the woman shares time with him.
① Sugar dating can sometimes mimic a relationship that resembles that of a romantic partner.
② Physical relationships are not necessarily forced.
③ The opinions of both men and women are respected.
Sometimes, women feel that the relationship is not just about money, and sometimes a deep emotional connection develops beyond just a physical relationship.
👇 Are sugar babies only interested in money? Are men only interested in sex? Are there people who are in relationships without financial support?
If you would like to know more specifically about sex in sugar dating in order to put this into practice,Sex in sugar datingPlease see the detailed explanation below.
Reasons for choosing sugar dating
The psychology of men who choose "sugar dating" over prostitution.
I often heard this myself when I was working in the dating club department and conducting interviews.
Oseki
Why not prostitution establishments or nighttime bars (like pubs)?
Did you choose to engage in "sugar dating"?
Many men choose "sugar dating" over prostitution or nightclubs for the following psychological reasons:
- I'm tired of going to brothels and bars.
- This time, I want to meet an ordinary (amateur) woman and have a relationship like that with her.
In the sex industry, the prices are clearly defined: how much for how long, or how much for each service.
I'll set a timer, and when the sound goes off, time's up.
You can only meet at the time and for the price set by the shop.
There's very little sense of being in a relationship.
The scope of what you can do freely is also limited.
I think the points mentioned above are also significant.
Uncle
For example, even if you want to go out to eat together,
I can hardly do anything I want to do outside of my shop (home).
Because they are being watched (protected) by the shop staff.
One of the downsides of the sex industry is that there's no room for negotiation regarding the date's content or price.
Uncle
Well, it's their job, after all...
Some might suggest, "Why not just do a reverse bet?"
If we get caught, it will cause trouble for the shop and, more importantly, for the girls, and any sensible man will understand that doing something outside the rules is not fair.
Furthermore, some people gave the following reasons for not using sex services!
I simply dislike the atmosphere of the red-light district.
Since that is included in the service, I cannot refuse it; therefore
I end up being just one of the many elderly customers I deal with each day.
Since the physical relationship becomes part of the job, it loses its sense of specialness.
Uncle
I'm not saying you have to like girls who engage in "sugar dating," but
The thing about sugar babies is that they pretend to like you, they deceive you into thinking that.
But she has a slightly different vibe from the other ladies...
The relationship sought in "sugar dating" and its appeal
The appeal of sugar dating is,Men and women can choose each other.Is on the point.
Women have the power to decide how they will develop, and they are not forced to do so.
This allows you to spend more natural and quality time (or at least, that's what you might perceive it to be).
Another characteristic is the high degree of flexibility, as specific times and content are not clearly defined.
Thus, unlike the sex industry, the biggest appeal of "sugar dating" is that it involves person-to-person relationships.
There are dreams, and there is a desire to support those dreams and goals, and women also have the right to choose their partners.
Among them, "I was able to act because they thought I was good enough,"
It's not just anyone; it's a relationship based on mutual agreement between the two.They find value in it.
You can say.
Differences in pricing between prostitution and sugar dating
Pricing system for adult entertainment services
The pricing structure for sex work is very clear, with prices determined by the time spent and the services provided.
For example, prices are set as a certain amount per 30 minutes, or a certain amount for receiving a specific service.
Additionally, extra charges may apply, and these will be added to your bill each time.
Thus, one advantage of the sex industry is that prices are clearly set, making it easier to plan your budget.
✅ Check out the types, systems, and going rates of the sex industry.
Fee structure for sugar dating
Unlike the sex industry, the pricing structure for "sugar daddy" relationships is very flexible.
Generally, it varies depending on the content and duration of the date.
There's no set market rate; the specific amount and conditions are decided through discussions between the sugar daddy and the sugar baby.
This allows for flexible ways of receiving and giving payments that suit each party's needs.
Furthermore, in sugar dating, relationships are often built on a continuous basis rather than just a single date.
Compensation settings from a long-term perspective are also important.
Oseki
Since there are no monthly contracts in the sex industry, this place is very
That's a big difference, wouldn't you say?
A message to men looking for an ordinary girl
The reality of women who engage in "sugar dating"
A "sugar baby" refers to a woman who engages in sugar dating activities while receiving financial support from others.
The reasons are varied.
Some of these women are students and engage in "sugar dating" as a side job,
Other women engage in "sugar dating" while also holding down a daytime job.
Oseki
People who are active while working a day job
It's called a daytime job project ✨
The important point is that women who engage in "sugar dating" are not necessarily in financial distress.
The key point is that they choose to engage in "sugar dating" (papakatsu) for self-fulfillment or to improve their quality of life.
Even so, I still prefer a "normal girl."
Airi
I just want a normal girl!!
I often hear these kinds of words from time to time.
However, while girls who engage in "sugar dating" are also ordinary girls, as long as they engage in sugar dating and earn money from it
People who don't have any side jobs or anything like that, students or people who have only ever worked a daytime job.
She's not just an ordinary girl in the sense that she knows nothing.It is important to understand this.
It's not just because I like older men and want to have more experience, but also because I'm a woman too.
It's important to understand that these women are choosing "sugar dating" as a means to "earn money."
However, from a man's perspective, the question is whether or not a woman is employed by a shop as part of her job.
It feels like the standard for what constitutes an "average girl" is being used.
Therefore, the current trend is that more and more daddies are looking for girls through apps or dating clubs rather than through brothels.
The definition of an "ordinary woman" varies from person to person,
It might be helpful for women to remember that men who come for interviews because they want to engage in "sugar dating" rather than prostitution are often looking for "normal girls."
Are women who work in the sex industry not ordinary women?
Occasionally, you'll encounter people who say, "Sex workers are a no-go," or "People who work in the nightlife industry are a no-go."
However, men may indeed feel that there are many negative aspects to this.
However, there is one thing I want to say about the sex industryEven ifEven if you haven't done so
Honestly, everyone is just a normal girl in front of the person they like.
(In fact, my friend was dating a customer and was seriously in love with him.)
Whether they are women who engage in "sugar dating" or women who work in the sex industry, they are still human beings with feelings.
I would like you to interact and respond with respect.
(Of course, this assumes that women treat men with respect and courtesy.)
If you want to act on your motivation of "I want to meet an ordinary girl," the next thing you need to do is figure out how to find her.Realistic ways to meet female college studentsSo, I'm going to explain how to proceed without wasting time.
Summary
How was it?
Hopefully, you now understand the difference between prostitution and sugar dating.
To summarize the main points:
Summary of the differences between prostitution and sugar dating
- The fees and services offered by prostitutes and sugar daddies are fundamentally different in terms of compensation styles.
- Some people are bored and are looking for emotional connection.
- If you want to experience a pseudo-romance and build a genuine human relationship, then sugar dating is your only option.
- If you have specific preferences regarding the type of sex you have or are looking for a stable income, you might consider using a sex worker (that might be one option).
- It may or may not suit everyone.
Oseki
Both have their pros and cons, so try them out for a little while.
To decide, maybe you should start by trying out an app.
Registering with sugar daddy apps or dating clubs is not required.
Also, I'm worried about sugar dating, but I think it might be right for me... so I'm researching sugar dating apps and dating clubs, but I still can't feel completely at ease.
In such cases, you can simply come in to hear more information, or inform us of this when you request online registration.
There's no harm in just listening to what they have to say.
First, consider whether you think you can do it.See and hear for yourself, and verify it.Let's look at.
bonus
I recently went to Kyoto for personal reasons and visited Kiyomizu-dera Temple with my colleagues from work.
There are no sweet things happening every day outside of the world of Netflix.
Oseki
I want to take suggestive photos with a lively male...
Thinking this, I asked the staff at the Kyoto branch at the time...
"Thank you for cooperating in taking photos that make it look like we're on a date.",
I was able to successfully take photos that resembled a couple.
Universe Club, with Mr. Arai from the Kyoto branch at the time, and Mr. Kurono and Mr. Hiyama from the Fukuoka branch.
Thank you so much for everything back then.
Even if it's not a real romantic date, to relieve the fatigue of daily childcare in a distant place
Being able to escape reality with someone... this feeling of gratitude is a thrill and relief that only someone who is truly cornered can experience.
While admiring the autumn leaves from Kiyomizu-dera Temple,
Even the men who are struggling through daily life in sugar dating can turn a blind eye to the reality before them for just a little while.
I thought that perhaps they were balancing things out by paying money for a little taste of sweetness, making a conscious decision to accept the situation, and having the other person accept it as well.
While gazing at Kyoto Tower (?), I remembered something from when I stayed in Kyoto a long time ago, from the hotel receptionist
I remember being told, "You should absolutely never marry a man from Kyoto."
Oseki
I still don't understand the true meaning behind what my older sister said to me when I was young.
I sometimes get lost in thought.
We had a rendezvous to escape reality, and we were all excitedly drawing fortune slips (even though it was a date, there were four of us)
The fortune slip said"Life and death do not always go as one wishes."It was written like this
Looking back, my life has been a repetition of today (bad luck), and even though I'm in love, no one believes me at all, and it's been a pathetic life, but today is the youngest I'll ever be in my life, and someday I really want to go on a temple date with my boyfriend.
I regained my vitality to live, and my thoughts were completely...Sugar daddy (unsuccessful version)That was the author's situation.
✅If you want to hear from a woman who has actually experienced sugar dating, rather than the author,CLICK HERE
If you've read this far and are interested in the precautions and considerations for sugar daddy dates,Dating in sugar daddy relationshipsThe detailed explanation is also helpful.
