[Question] Is sugar dating a bad thing? Is there a difference between what you really think and what you say? What if my child is trying to do it?

In this column, we will discuss the thoughts of serious, simple, kind-hearted, and pure men and women who have thought about this at least once.

The public image of sugar daddy
I would like to write about whether sugar dating is really a bad thing or not.

The public's image of sugar daddy

Although many people are now looking for sugar daddies, generally speaking,
It's never a popular thing.
What is the public's image of sugar daddy relationships?

Let's take a look at the comments on the internet and social media as well.

It seems to commodify women.

Sugar daddy is a womanIn exchange for moneyOwnDeep relationship at timesHave
And there are companies that act as intermediaries for these encounters, like dating clubs.
Commodifying womenIt appearsThere may be some people.

The commodification of women's sexuality.
Sugar daddy dating or whatever, roughly lumping it all together, is prostitution or anything similar, so let's do something about it. Let's do something about people who only see real women as sex commodities. Let's protect women who are the victims of sexual commodification.
What is the point of protecting a painting that looks like a woman but isn't actually a woman?

— Victoria (@Victolique) October 28, 2021

Certainly, in terms of clearly linking adult relationships (sex) with money,
There may be some parts that are close to being commercialized.

Men who try to buy sex at bargain prices,
When men who mistakenly believe that they can do whatever they want with women's bodies as long as they have money enter the market,
Such impressions and images will only become stronger.

I feel there is a moral or ethical problem

I remember that at that time, both men and women were often asked this question during interviews and consultations.

At this time, there are many concerns about whether everything is okay.

Is there any legal problem?
Is there any ethical problem?
Is there no risk of being found out?

Although there are some differences in the things people worry about,
Somewhere"Maybe I'm doing something bad."I think they ask such questions because they are worried about this.

This is a question that is asked frequently, especially by women.

Of course, I also get asked this question from conscientious, beginner men.

For men and women who have not yet tried sugar dating,
The activity may be an unrealistic way of making money that deviates from common sense.

👇Let's take a look at the difference between sugar dating and compensated dating

Is it actually a bad thing?

To be honest, this question has crossed the mind of even men and women who have been using the dating club for a long time.
I think this is a path that I have been thinking about and that cannot be avoided.

Daddy life

The definition of sugar daddy varies from person to person.
I think the following points are common to both of us:

👇Commonalities between sugar daddies
1. Find a man who will date you and give you financial support in return.
② Make your own decision without the involvement of a third party
3) Adults aged 18 or over

Risk is inevitable

Sugar Daddy Specialty App PatroThis service that we are proposing in the form of
The amount that the man pays and the moment that the woman musters up the courage to take off her clothes are also so-calledinvestment.

It's an investment and a relationship between people.
Even if there are rules"Safety and Stability"This does not guarantee the accuracy of the information provided.

There are always risks involved.

SometimesIt can cause mental and physical damageIt will be.
There are some parts of the world where nice words don't work.

I accepted the proposal
I was the one who convinced myself that it was okay.
Whether you believe in the person in front of you or not is up to you

The danger of it all being down to meWhen,
You can make your own decisions according to your heart.This is what sugar dating is all about.

As the famous Leonardo da Vinci said:

If you choose pleasure, behind pleasure is
Know that it will bring trouble and regret.
Leonardo da Vinci

👇Sometimes people realize that the decision they made was a mistake and end up like this (illustration from October 22.10nd)

👇 Check the risks of sugar dating in advance

I can't say for sure that it's a bad thing either [Women's experiences]

Words like "threatening risk," "trouble," and "regret" are being used.
Of course, there are positive aspects as well, so the number of men and women engaging in sugar dating is not decreasing; in fact, it can be said that it is increasing.

Sometimes the returns can be quite large.

At the social club where I used to work,
I received the following comment from a woman whom I helped match with.

👇 A dating club where Oseki received lovely words of gratitude

Staff's view

"Is sugar dating really a bad thing?"If you ask me, I have seen the bitter and sweet reality of sugar dating.
As a sugar daddy staff member/dating club staff member, I would answer like this.

However, in order to achieve their goals,
When I saw him doing sugar daddy dating and making his dream come true,
I don't think it's a bad thing, even if one's way of making money is through sugar dating.

People who are bashing me online,
To those who make hard work a virtue and force it on others,

I think and I say so.
Of course, I cannot condone underage sugar daddy activities or crimes, and I have no intention of doing so.

In response to a certain behavior of another person (in this case, sugar dating)
(It may be good to give advice that comes from your heart.)

It's impossible to take their place and carry their burden, or to fully understand them.
I don't know all of that person's feelings, circumstances, and reasons.

I think it’s important to understand that.

A mother's perspective

Some people may think this way.
No one has ever asked me this question before, but it got me thinking.

As a mother, I think the first thing I would say if my daughter was trying to do this would be:
(I don't have a daughter... but Seki exudes melancholy.)

He says this in reply.

And it looks like you're riding it.
But are you trying to earn a living just from food, or are you also trying to use your body in some cases?
I don't know the true meaning.

After all, your child is a stranger to you.
For now,I don't want my children to lose their innocence and their faith in others to ulterior motives.I think.
If possible, I want them to enjoy their youth without getting hurt or experiencing trauma.

So I'll give you this as a word of advice.
incidentally"Sugar daddy is no problem" "I'll do anything for money"For the spiritual woman
This is what I want to say as a mother in the sugar daddy world.

But I'll also add this.

With that said, I think I will trust my child and wait for the report.
This may also increase the opportunities to experience the inherent joy of earning money in exchange for work.
I will accept what my child says, hoping for his safety, so that the conversation between parent and child will continue.

Because I was a problem child, I am very careful how I interact with children.
This is my personal opinion as a person.

The truth about sugar daddy

Men I met while working at the club
Among the men I met in private,

full of ulterior motives but generousI want to give and give to anyone (regardless of homosexuality)The man whoYes, there actually are.
Of course, there are those who have no ulterior motives at all.

There are many different types of men in the world who are looking for sugar daddies.
There are many women who have been saved in some way by wonderful men.

that there are such wonderful people and possibilities知ら ない まま

Withering my youth and feminine beautyTo put it away,
As a woman myself, I feel that this is a shame.

Conclusion: It's up to you to decide if it's a bad thing or not.

Self-responsibility is a word that weighs heavily on everyone.

But while I am free, I believe in my potential, use my money and beauty,
Happiness againA moment of supreme pleasure that surpasses a lifetime of regretI would love for you to try it at least once.

But, of course, for men too
I especially don't want women to regret getting involved in sugar dating.
I wondered if what would really serve as food for meI want you to see it with your own eyes.

This was a column asking for help from a nosy old lady with no real demand for it.
Be happy everyone.