[Question] Is "sugar dating" a bad thing? Is there a difference between what you say and what you really think? What if a child tries it?

In this column, I will discuss something that honest, simple, kind-hearted, and pure men and women often think about at some point.

Public perception of "sugar dating" and
I'd like to write about whether or not "sugar dating" is really a bad thing.

Public perception of "sugar dating"

Although many people are actually engaging in "sugar dating," generally speaking...
It's definitely not popular.
What is the general public's perception of "sugar dating"?

Let's take a look while also considering what people are saying on the internet and social media.

It appears that women are being commodified.

Sugar dating is a way for women to...In exchange for moneyOwnTime and circumstances have a deep connection.Having
And there are also companies that act as intermediaries for such encounters, like dating clubs.
They are commodifying women.It appears that wayThere may be some people who think that way.

The commodification of women's sexuality.
Whether it's "sugar dating" or whatever, it's basically prostitution or similar activities, so let's do something about it. Let's do something about people who only see real women as sex commodities. Let's protect women who are victims of sexual exploitation.
What's the point of protecting mere paintings that look like women but aren't actually women?

— Victori (@Victolique) October 28, 2021

Certainly, in terms of clearly linking adult relationships (sex) and money
It may be close to being a commercial product.

Men who try to buy sex at bargain prices,
When men who mistakenly believe that they can do whatever they want with a woman's body as long as they pay enter the scene...
Those impressions and images will likely become stronger.

I feel there is a moral or ethical problem with this.

I remember being asked this question frequently during interviews and meetings, both by men and women at the time.

At this time, there are various concerns about whether everything will be alright.

Is this legally permissible?
Is this ethically acceptable?
Is there no risk of being found out?

Although the specific concerns may vary slightly from person to person,
Somewhere"I might be doing something wrong."I think they ask that question because they have that kind of anxiety.

This is a question I get asked especially often by women.

I also get asked this question by conscientious men who are beginners.

For men and women who are not involved in or have not yet taken the plunge into sugar dating,
Their activities may be unconventional and unrealistic ways of making money, deviating from common sense.

👇Let's also look into the difference between "sugar dating" and compensated dating.

Is it actually a bad thing?

To be honest, this question has crossed the minds of even long-term dating club members.
I think this is an unavoidable path that we've been considering.

Daddy life

The definition of "sugar dating" itself varies from person to person, but...
I believe the following points are common to all of them.

👇Common characteristics of sugar daddy relationships
① Find a man who will go on dates with you and provide financial support in return.
② To make a decision independently without the involvement of a third party.
③ Adults aged 18 or over

Risks are inevitable.

Patron, an app specializing in sugar daddy relationships.This service, which we are proposing in this form,
The amount of money the man pays, and the moment the woman bravely takes off her clothes, are also part of the so-calledinvestment.

It's an investment, and it's about the relationships between people.
Even if rules are in place"Peace of mind and stability"This does not guarantee the accuracy of the information provided.

It always involves risks.

SometimesIt can also result in mental and physical damage.It will be.
There are parts of the world where platitudes don't apply.

I was the one who accepted the proposal.
I was the one who accepted that it was okay.
Whether you trust the person in front of you or not is up to you.

The precariousness of knowing that everything depends on yourself.When,
It is possible to make all decisions based on your own heart.That's what "sugar dating" is.

The famous Leonardo da Vinci also said this:

If you choose pleasure, behind that pleasure is
Be aware that trouble and regret will come with it.
Leonardo da Vinci

👇Sometimes people realize that a decision they made was a mistake and end up like this (illustration from October 22.10nd)

👇Check the risks of sugar dating beforehand

It can't be definitively said to be a bad thing [Based on a woman's real-life experience]

Words like "risk," "trouble," and "regret" are being used to describe the situation.
Of course, there are positive aspects to it, which is why the number of women and men engaging in "sugar dating" (papakatsu) is not decreasing; in fact, it's increasing.

The returns can sometimes be quite large.

At the dating club where I previously worked,
I received these words from a woman I helped match with.

👇The dating club received a heartwarming message of gratitude from Oseki.

Staff perspective

"Is 'sugar dating' really a bad thing?"If you ask me, I've seen the bitter and the realities of sugar dating.
As a staff member for sugar daddy/dating club services, this is how I would answer.

However, while struggling with circumstances or striving to achieve their goals
When I saw her engaging in "sugar dating," and when I saw her fulfilling that dream,
Even if the way of earning money is through sugar dating, I don't think that's a bad thing.

People who are criticizing on the internet,
To those who consider hard work and sweating to be a virtue and try to "impose" it on others:

I think so, and I say so.
Of course, I cannot condone underage sugar dating or criminal activity, nor do I have any intention of doing so.

Regarding someone's actions (in this case, sugar dating)
(While it may be good to offer advice out of genuine concern for the other person,)

It's impossible to become that person, bear their burden, or fully understand them.
I don't know all of that person's feelings, circumstances, or reasons.

I think it's important to understand that point.

A mother's perspective

Some of you might be thinking that.
No one has ever asked me this question before, but I've given it some serious thought.

As a mother, if my daughter were trying to do this, I would probably say this at least once.
(I don't have a daughter, but... Seki has a melancholic air about him.)

This is how they respond.

And it looks like you're riding it.
But are they trying to make money solely from food, or are they willing to use their bodies as well, depending on the situation?
I don't know the true meaning.

After all, a child is ultimately a separate person, not a part of yourself.
For now,I don't want children to have their innocence and trust in others stolen by adults with ulterior motives.I think.
If possible, I hope that young people can enjoy their youth without getting hurt or experiencing trauma.

So, I'll tell you this, along with a word of caution.
By the way"Sugar dating is easy," "I'll do anything for money."For women of the mind
This is something I want to convey as the mother of the sugar daddy community.

But I would also add this:

I think I would say that and trust my child, waiting for their report.
And it may increase opportunities to experience the true joy of earning money as compensation for labor.
I will try to accept what my child says, while wishing for their safety, so that we can continue to have conversations as a family.

Because I was a troubled child myself, I am very careful about how I interact with children.
This is just my personal opinion as an individual.

The truth about sugar dating

Men I met while working at the club
Among the men I met in my private life,

He has ulterior motives, but he is generous.I want to give and bestow this upon everyone (regardless of gender).The man saidThey actually exist.
Of course, there are also people who have absolutely no ulterior motives.

There are all sorts of people out there, including men who engage in "sugar dating."
There are quite a few women who have been saved, to some extent, by wonderful men.

Such wonderful people and potentialWithout knowing

Wither away her youth and feminine beautyPutting it away,
As a fellow woman, I feel it's such a waste.

Conclusion: Decide for yourself whether something is a bad thing or not.

Personal responsibility is a phrase that weighs heavily on everyone.

But as long as you are free, believe in your own potential to the fullest, and make full use of your money and beauty.
Happy againA moment of unparalleled pleasure that outweighs a lifetime of regret.I would definitely like you to try it at least once.

But, of course, men too
I especially don't want women to regret having engaged in "sugar dating."
What truly benefits and nourishes meI want you to see it for yourself..

This was a request column from a nosy old lady with no real need for it.
I hope everyone finds happiness.