[Warning Signs] Be careful if you meet someone through sugar dating! How to spot a "problematic uncle"

*This article is a columnized version of a blog post I wrote in November 22.11 titled "[True Story] Examples of Terrifying Old Men in the P-Activity Industry." 

This might come as a surprise, but a friend of mine who works in management at a supermarket was having a headache.

A colleague (a 40-year-old male with mental health issues) and a high school girl working part-timeHe has been sending her personal LINE messages, and apparently she has been seeking his advice.

A friend (a manager) told the person"Stop the disruptive behavior."When he told them this, he was surprised to receive this reply.

That's what I think, but what do you all think?

By the way, this is what my friend said: 👇

This article discusses how an older man might act with good intentions, but in reality, his actions are problematic.
I'd like to write about annoying behaviors that I might not even be aware of!

What kind of people are the "problematic older men" you meet through sugar dating?

My senses are off.

It's generally difficult to have a physical relationship with a young and attractive woman.
However, despite the fact that these relationships are only able to develop because money is involved, some men take women's compliments at face value and genuinely believe that "women would be interested in me even if I did it for free."

There are some truly dapper and handsome men out there, and there might even be women who genuinely think, "I'd love to meet him, even if it was free!"
However, no matter how you look at it, there are men with unattractive appearances.I feel the same way about every woman.If you engage in conversation like that, you might be seen as a "troublemaker."

An older man who's supposed to be looking for a sugar daddy but is actually looking for a girlfriend.This is also of this type.

👆An older man who says this right from the start will likely be seen as a problematic old man.

Looking down on women

Even if they don't intend to look down on women, some men unconsciously view them as "women who can be easily manipulated with money," and this attitude and behavior naturally come through in their attitude and words.
It can be revealed through eye contact or the way they end their sentences, or it can be revealed through their choice of words.
For some people, it's quite obvious from their tone of voice and the content of their conversation.

I checked the replies and there was a troll 😱 Who do they think they are, calling people weaklings 😱
I've never seen a kind producer; they're always the type who look down on you from the start. They usually make so many demands that I either get overwhelmed, or if I ask for a little more compensation, they immediately label me as a prostitute and get angry...
It seems like having a one-letter name can filter out people like that lol pic.twitter.com/wLDrkLYt0Q

— Delinquent Yaya-chan (@ojiyaya_) August 1, 2024

They don't keep their promises.

This involves various types of "non-compliance" elements.
Here are some examples.

• They don't show up on time.
• He didn't show up at the meeting place.
• Failure to pay the agreed amount
• He didn't give the promised gift.
• Doing something different from what was promised

The more of these items that apply, the higher the likelihood of it being a "landmine" (a potentially problematic or risky situation).
Not showing up at the meeting place or just messing around is unacceptable, but what I often hear is...
They say things like, "I'll add it on next time," or "I'll buy you [item] next time," but then forget about it on the day itself.

I often hear stories like this.
If this continues, women will grow increasingly distrustful and will likely label you as a "landmine" (a person who is difficult to deal with).

I'm really feeling that now.

self-centered

This self-centeredness sometimes manifests itself in various ways.
A woman who doesn't worry too much about small details might be able to overlook it without any problem.
It can vary depending on compatibility and compensation, but basically, most men try to make the woman adapt to everything.

For example,

• They only think about their own convenience.
• They only talk about themselves.
• Not considering the other person's feelings
• They only ever push their own demands on you.
• He gets angry when his opinion is contradicted.
• I only do things that I find enjoyable.

Men might think, "Women are the same!"
For example, if you're willing to accommodate the woman in every other way, and pay her whatever amount she asks, but still want your own requests heard, then I can understand that.

What women sometimes find unfair is that "they don't listen to women's opinions or requests."
Most of the time, when it comes to what I want to do (mostly sex), I try to force my way through.

👇I found this on social media as well, and I can understand why the woman is angry.

Yesterday, I gained about 500 followers and blocked about 100 people.
When I post about this fat old man, I sometimes get comments like, "Don't act like a victim after getting paid for it!" But there's a whole story going on around dinnertime, and this selfish old man who doesn't keep his promises to me but still schedules his own sexual needs was the one that got mad at him. pic.twitter.com/N9Fvp0spES

— pjogawa (@l__yuka__) February 12, 2024

to hurl insults

It's not the behavior of a gentleman to hurl insults at a woman you've just met, simply because you're angry. For example, even a normally mild-mannered man might utter such abusive remarks if he feels disrespected by a woman or if he's had too much to drink.

misogynistic remarks

People who make discriminatory remarks or try to control women who engage in "sugar dating" (compensated dating) may have been bullied or have bitter memories from their childhood.
Based on their own experiences, people often make generalizations like, "Women must be like this," and these kinds of statements are thrown around.

I don't understand why someone would deliberately try to make themselves disliked, but there are also these kinds of dismissive and condescending remarks.

Offensive remarks about sex

Occasionally, some men make remarks that suggest they view women as nothing more than sex toys.
Each time a woman is subjected to such words, she loses the light in her eyes and is filled with a sense of nihilism, thinking, "It's pointless to be sincere towards this person."

Some men occasionally say that women only care about money, but they should ask themselves: Have they ever said anything like that to women? Are their own words and actions causing women to think that way?

Men who make remarks that hint at this kind of nuance tend to be considered problematic.

Rude remarks about money

When deciding on the price, or compensation, for the woman, these problematic men use incredibly insensitive language. They use language that, if they didn't say it that way, wouldn't hurt or offend the woman.

I don't think an explanation is necessary.
Even the nicest kid would dislike the person who spoke to them like that.
People will think, "This isn't the sex industry, I'm just a human being too."

Statements that deny a person's character

You might think, "Do people like this really exist?", but they really do.
For example, let's say during negotiations for compensation, the woman proposes a higher amount than the man was expecting.
The landmine-prone old man, after refusing, says this in desperation:

Of course, no one will be pleased to hear such a thing, and putting others down doesn't elevate a man's status. Yet, some older gentlemen, whose pride won't allow it, will still say it.

This is probably the most common statement I hear.

I wonder if men who actually say things like this can even imagine how they'll be perceived? In that sense, can you really say you're smarter than me? If they were capable of considering other people's feelings, they probably wouldn't be called "landmines."

She is pressuring me to marry her.

These days, everyone's talking about the lawsuit between the famous hostesses Himeka and Kakerun.
There are voices saying that it's extremely disturbing that a man who was financially connected to her made such a statement.

I'm enjoying watching Himeka and Kakerun's romance scam, but this is just too creepy...
Kakeru probably thinks he can marry Himeka, but for Himeka, who only sees him as a customer, it must be incredibly stressful... pic.twitter.com/YhoD2BnzNl

— Fu, Fuuuuka🧂 (@fu_fuuuuka) September 13, 2024

Men who don't understand that you can't buy a woman's heart with money (sometimes) may end up being seen by women as deluded, problematic men.

Honestly, I think Himeka is amazing for putting up that smile and saying "Wow!" to every gift she receives, even while Kakeru begs her to cosplay and sends her sexually harassing LINE messages like "Have two children with me 🥺".

And that guy who records everything on video is seriously creepy. I would have gone insane.

— Eno ૮⁔. ̫ .⁔ა (@oioientp) September 16, 2024

An old man with no connection to the field, who is there to sexually exploit others.

Some sugar daddy apps and websites have the misconception that paying women an allowance is somehow "unequal."In the first placeI feel like I shouldn't be in the sugar daddy market.TheThe Lord also exists. 

Why do I have to pay money for this?
There are a certain number of men who feel that they should pay for everything, including meals and hotel expenses, and some men genuinely believe that women who think it's natural to receive compensation from men are a red flag.

The messages these men send are like this:

That's what you'd think, right?

Of course, there are cases where feelings develop and the father ends up becoming the boyfriend.
But if this is how the men feel, then honestly, it's like sugar dating.GirlThere's no point in specifically using a sugar daddy app to find someone.Is not it?
Men who are out of their league are nothing but a nuisance to women, and are definitely a walking landmine for them.

Being too obsessed with sex

For men, the ideal scenario when it comes to dating is that it develops into a mature relationship.
But sometimes sugar dating"A physical relationship is absolutely necessary; a woman who can't do that isn't committed."Some men doubt a woman's true intentions, become overly attached, and attack or jump to conclusions.

Simply put, women"Maybe I'm partly to blame for this."They take advantage of that feeling.There are also some problematic old men.

SayingforcefullyThey try to turn the relationship into an adult one.
And once it's done

And so on.On the contrary, he's a disgrace to fathers who try to blackmail their victims into giving in to sexual exploitation.

A scammer who sexually exploits women and then tries to swindle them out of their money.There is also.

scam

Taking advantage of the psychology of women who want to receive money from older men,

And, I'll transfer the money at the end of the month, so let's have a sexual relationship first, andThey made the girl pay money temporarily under the guise of a deposit.,As it isRun awayTo do...There are also those kinds of problematic older men out there.

Girls want to believe that they can get money from men.

In some cases, people feel too embarrassed to tell anyone about it, find it painful, and just suffer in silence.

Why does this happen?

Because that person is evil.

That's also true.

Because there are no third-party eyes

• No one will find out.
• I don't know who to talk to.
• That's not something you can say to everyone.

In such an environment,Having someone to watch over you is important.. 

Of course, we also need to take measures against the "landmine man,"Doing sugar dating in an environment without problematic older men
This is also a very important point.

 

👇Try using a sugar daddy app that significantly reduces the chances of encountering problematic men.

👇Consider registering with a dating club.

Because I'm doing sugar dating in my own way.

People who engage in sugar dating solely through sugar dating apps, websites, dating sites, or social media will be doing it in their own unique way—their own personal style.
If you're able to engage in sugar dating using the site and methods that work best for you, then there's absolutely no problem. However, regarding the risks, I have to be honest and say this:

Doing sugar dating on your own increases the risks even further.

My wish is that you will be able to avoid danger with the support of someone.
I truly believe this will be in their best interest.

I'm not saying that using a dating club is the best option,
It would also be good to have an expert or an experienced sugar baby who has foresight, can give accurate advice, and possesses common sense.
Let's create a safe space and a people you can talk to without worry.

The opposite is also true; there's even a term for it, "honey trap."

I hope that men will also be careful not to be taken advantage of by unscrupulous women while they are working.

👇Read the article about the case in which the woman who received the gift was arrested.

Summary

Take precautions to avoid falling for a "landmine uncle".

• Check the profile carefully.
• First meeting in a busy place
• Let's discuss it thoroughly beforehand.
• Before exchanging contact information
• Sex is never forced.
• If you think something is wrong, run away immediately.

Although there is some negotiation involved,

I don't want anyone to experience deceiving or being deceived by others.

Please take good care of yourself.