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[Question] Are you happy when you're surrounded by damn women who only care about money and only take your money?
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"DaddyAs the phrase "sugar daddy" became more widespread, and as more people entered the world of sugar dating,
Airi
Isn't "sugar dating" solely about money?
I've started hearing a lot of people asking that question.
I have actually worked as a staff member at Universe Club, the largest sugar dating company, and I have also received consultations from people. As someone assigned to the marketing department of PATOLO, I have been able to delve into social media and see the voices of people who have actually experienced sugar dating, and those voices are particularly loud and high-pitched.
In reality, when we learn about the reasons why people engage in "sugar dating," a variety of motives become apparent.
This article delves into the essence of "sugar dating" and provides a detailed explanation of its various aspects.
Oseki
You may experience earaches or headaches.
I hope to write from an objective perspective!
What are the basics of "sugar dating"?
"Papa-katsu" basically refers to a relationship where an older man (a "papa") provides financial support to a younger woman. This relationship is reciprocal and is established to satisfy the needs of both parties.
(Of course, there are also young men involved, and it's certainly not just young women who are active in this field.)
This means that, generally speaking, this is the most common case, including the general public's perception and the proportion of such cases.
Also, the article below provides a more detailed explanation of "sugar dating," so please check it out if you're interested.
>>What is "Papa Katsu"? A beginner's guide to safe and easy entry, from definitions and legality to how to meet people, explained by an experienced user.
Financial support is the basic principle.
The basics of sugar dating areFinancial support.
In many sugar daddy/sugar baby relationships, the arrangement is established when the man gives money to the woman.
This can be provided in various forms, such as expenses for meals, shopping, or travel.
Therefore, I'm going to use a matching app that's known as a sugar daddy app.
If a man asks to meet someone for free, he often gets beaten up.
Oseki
I can understand that...❣
For women who don't have a tolerance for older men, it's like wanting to meet a man for free.
I don't see any benefit in meeting...
To a man who is filled with suspicion and distrust
When I first wrote this article in November 2022, I was on Twitter"Questions about 'sugar dating'"My writing style involved picking up on questions that were frequently appearing in the search results and using them as blog topics.
Oseki
As a staff member of the "sugar daddy" industry, I will objectively answer your real-world questions.
Because I wanted to put it into words.
Public perception of men who engage in "sugar dating"
To people outside the typical sugar dating scene, sugar daddies can sometimes appear comical.
Some people have the straightforward question: "Isn't this like a charitable act, where you're only taking, and don't you feel empty?"
Here are the questions I actually encountered at the time.
(I tried to paste the original tweet, but it was deleted.))
Airi
I have a question for the sugar daddies in sugar dating: those awful women who only care about money...
They swarm around me, only to have my money taken away. I wonder if they're really happy about that.
I think that people who aren't actually involved in "sugar dating" and women who are only doing it for the money would feel this way.
If that person is only looking for money in sugar dating, it's easy to assume that others think the same way.
I think that the more immature and younger someone is, the less likely they are to accept diversity.
→Click here if you want to know the causes and psychology behind making assumptions/preconceptions.
Oseki
In fact, before I joined this company, I wasn't just interested in money.
It was hard to believe that there was a demand for older men.💦
If public opinion is "that way" regarding older men and sugar dating,
Among men who engage in "sugar dating,"Is the woman genuinely interested in me, or is she only after my money?I sometimes become suspicious and distrustful.
Here, we'll discuss the reality of the situation, how to build trust, and how to find value beyond money.
Are you really just a source of money?
*This is merely my personal opinion based on my observations of members and conversations with them as a staff member.
To be honest,
It depends on the level of your relationship with the sugar baby you're meeting.
This isThe real thing.
そしてこれはWhat do men and women both want?That's how your value to the other person is determined.
For example, menFor those who only desire a woman's body, or those who want a completely transactional relationship.It is,
I'm not looking for emotional connection, or rather, it's not a high priority for me.
In fact, some might prefer it if a woman sees them as simply interested in money, rather than getting emotionally involved and making things complicated.
The fact that women are attracted to me as a reward for the support I provideWith full knowledge
me tooBecause you'll be enjoying your youth, energy, and body.Not give up, give upGive and takeI am aware of that.
Even if you meet someone through "sugar dating," it can cause some people to worry.
This is the opposite of the example above, and what we are looking for isHeart connectionorA relationship like that of lovers, this means a
This applies not only to men, but also when what each person wants is different.Both men and women can become ill (feel unhappy).I will.
No matter how much time you spend together in loveRelationships based on moneySo
Because it will be a constant reminder every time you hand over money.
even women
Airi
Every time I receive money
Is their relationship based solely on money?I've come to think that way.
We occasionally have people who say that.
So,
- I get easily engrossed in romance.
- Dependence
- bondage house
- I have a habit of overthinking things.
Basically, this is not suitable for sugar dating.
This doesn't mean you shouldn't have a serious relationship, but rather, when it comes to sugar dating...Negative emotions and obsessions only get in the way.,is what it means.
So, with that awareness in mind, what can we do to avoid becoming merely a source of money?
To help people understand that there are values other than money.
To make a sugar daddy relationship more than just an exchange of money, and to create something valuable for both parties, it's important to find value beyond just money.
For example,Enjoying shared hobbies and supporting each other's growth.This can deepen the relationship.
Oseki
For example, the dads I actually met said,
"There's a limit to the allowance we can give you," said PJ, who wants to start his own business.
We handle procedural processing and create websites, etc.
They also provided support in the form of reducing costs that would otherwise be incurred.
Not everyone engages in "sugar dating" solely for the money.
There are many misconceptions surrounding "sugar dating."
Here, we will explain that there are also examples of how relationships built on trust between people can occur beyond the basic financial support that is the core of "sugar dating."
The role of the need for recognition and pseudo-romance
In fact, there are various motives for "sugar dating" besides money.
For example, some women engage in "sugar dating" to satisfy their need for validation.
Even Ruby-chan, a legend in the world of sugar dating, has tweeted this.
Some women only realize that their need for validation was being fulfilled through "sugar dating" after they have stopped doing it.
Also, some women enjoy this to have a simulated romance, or because they want a wealthy older boyfriend.
Do you really engage in sugar dating for romantic purposes?Some people do that.
To seek experiences that cannot be had due to one's financial situation or position, to expand one's network, etc.
There are people who engage in "sugar dating" for a variety of reasons.
My romantic interests were originally older men.
Airi
I'd be even happier if my boyfriend gave me extra spending money!
I've met some people at dating club events who started "sugar dating" with that in mind.
Here is a manga I drew based on that experience 👇
Oseki
She was such a good kid.
A woman who is somehow mentally ill or extremely obsessed with money
I didn't get any impression at all.
It really might depend on the person, and it's not good to be bound by common sense.
That was an incident that made me realize something.
Building connections and pursuing experiences
Through sugar dating,Expand your networkIt is also possible.
Some people use sugar dating to find business opportunities or make new friends.
Another purpose of "sugar dating" is to seek out special experiences that one wouldn't normally experience, such as dining at high-end restaurants or going on trips.
Things you can do to build connections through sugar datingIf you want to know more, click below 👇
If you want to read a PJ manga about a girl who expanded her network and succeeded in her career through sugar dating, click here 👇
The existence of a variant dad called SukiP
While romantic feelings are often absent in sugar dating, among women who engage in sugar dating for financial gain and treat it as a job or part-time work, there is a type of sugar daddy called a "love sugar daddy" who is different from the others.
Oseki
In recent years, I've heard the term "SukiP" (a slang term for a producer who likes something) much more often.
What is the definition of a "Suki P"?
"Suki P" refers to someone you have a particular fondness for within the context of "sugar dating."
This kindness"I like him because I respect him as a person."Meaning and"I like him as a man."There is a meaning.
👇We also conducted a survey.
The fact that people's definitions of "liking P" vary slightly is reflected in the range of responses.
If you only see it as a source of money, you won't get the "I like you" certification.
このThe very word "suki p" (like p) signifies the creation of human connections that go beyond mere money.
Doesn't this prove it?
In rare cases, these relationships develop into genuine romantic feelings and even lead to marriage.
While rare, cases of sugar dating leading to marriage do occur.
I personally know of cases where a sugar daddy relationship actually led to marriage.
And it wasn't just one case.
Furthermore, Universe Club has a program called "Kotobuki STYLE" which applies to couples who meet and get married through Universe Club.
There is a system in place to present a congratulatory gift.
👇Let's look at some real-life examples of people who got married after meeting through "sugar dating".
In every case, the relationship between the sugar daddy and the sugar baby starts with financial support, building mutual trust and eventually progressing to mutual respect as individuals, ultimately becoming more than just a source of money.
Summary: Are you happy being surrounded by swarms of greedy, money-hungry women who only care about your money and just take all your money?
Here are the results.
The basic principle is money.
From a general perspective, sugar dating with a large age difference is beyond comprehension.
When you seek emotional connection from someone, you end up feeling empty, wondering if all you care about is money.
You have to choose between accepting the situation or confronting it head-on.
Please rest assured that rare cases do exist.
Oseki
Let's all try to maintain a comfortable relationship and emotional state.
Married people, don't get too involved!
Don't worry too much, don't overthink it, and find your ideal partner.
I would be happy if Patro could be one of the catalysts for this.
→Check out the details of Patro, an app specializing in sugar dating.
