[Must-See] Reasons and Solutions for Why Dating Apps Don't Work for Someone Who Isn't Having Success Even Though They're Not Setting Their Needs High

Some people succeed in "sugar dating," while others don't.

In "sugar dating," both men and women often date multiple partners.
However, even though I started sugar dating, I couldn't find the kind of partner I was looking for.
Some people don't end up developing a romantic relationship with anyone.

This article will show you who can find a regular partner soon after starting sugar dating, and
I can now understand the difference between people who keep meeting each other indefinitely.

To put it simply, those who are not succeeding are either failing to perform equivalent exchange or are doing things the wrong way.
I will explain this in more detail below.

high hopes

If your sugar daddy arrangement isn't working out, the first thing to consider is that you might be expecting too much.
Basically, a relationship is established when the individual qualities and relationship conditions of both parties, including their inner selves, are a good match.
Things won't go well if there's a discrepancy between your self-assessment and reality.
For example,

【Woman】
- She doesn't have any outstanding qualities like looks, conversational skills, or charm, and is hoping for a monthly allowance of 10 yen just for providing meals.
I don't want to reveal my personal information, but I want to receive lots of dating offers.
(The photo is so heavily edited that you can't see the person's face, and the profile information is sparse.)

【male】
I want to date a top-level beauty in my grade for a 3 yen allowance.
- Dates that impose a mental and physical burden on women, such as a 6-hour date, 1 hour of intercourse, no condom, and overnight stays.
(Excluding cases where an agreement has been reached with the woman in advance regarding additional allowances, etc.)

In the above case,
Finding someone to have a regular relationship with requires the kind of luck you'd need to win the lottery.

Reasons why you might struggle with sugar dating even if you're not expecting too much.

So, even if you are engaging in sugar dating under reasonable conditions,
Why do some couples struggle to make a relationship work, or are unable to maintain a regular relationship?
I will explain the three reasons.

① They are in the wrong place to be active.

As for where to find a partner, I think the main options are sugar daddy apps or dating clubs.

Sometimes people find sugar daddy partners within their personal social circle, but this is highly likely to lead to trouble, so I don't recommend it.

The difference between sugar daddy apps and dating clubs is that each has its pros and cons depending on the individual.

FirstIn the case of sugar daddy apps,
The ability to create a profile that includes how you look in photos,
The ability to communicate via chat with people you haven't met in person is essential.
Furthermore, you'll need to handle the invitations and arrangements for dates yourself.
If this is lacking, we won't be able to arrange a first meeting date.

In the case of a dating club,
Since the staff will act as an intermediary and handle the arrangements, the stress of coordinating a date will be reduced.
On the other hand, men are often expected to have high economic power, and women are often expected to have good looks, conversational skills, and a high level of charm, so
[Men] The budget per date is increasing.
[Women] When inviting someone to meet in person, the evaluation tends to be stricter than on dating apps.

Neither option is inherently better than the other; what suits one person may not suit the other, so choose the activity location that's right for you. Since it's generally free for women, if you have the time and energy, it's a good idea to try both simultaneously.

② They are unwilling to accept or compromise with the other person.

To engage in sugar dating without putting too much pressure on myself, I want to date someone who accepts me for who I am.
This desire is fine, but some people are so demanding of themselves that they refuse to accept the other person's feelings. This is why post-date feedback such as "condescending, malicious, and unpleasant" is sometimes received.
This is an example of a lack of emotional maturity and poor communication skills.
It could be either the person giving the feedback, the person receiving it, or both.

In reality, the person in question usually has no malicious intent.
Because they are unaware that they are taking advantage of others, the situation does not improve even after going on multiple dates.
Furthermore, men and women of this type tend to blame their partners, which can be exhausting for them.
Naturally, the relationship didn't last long.

[More common among women] Looking for a partner who will accept all of their opinions.

"Sugar dating" involves relationships between people, and since it involves sexual desire and money, it has both romantic and professional aspects.
In both romantic relationships and work, there is no one who will agree with you on every single point of view.
However, for some reason, when it comes to "sugar dating," some people come to believe that all their opinions will be affirmed.

"I can't meet any men who are supportive of me; they only ever talk about sex."
"He's not my boyfriend, so I don't want to do foreplay or kiss."
"I can't be with a man who says he wants us to have fun together. I just want to get paid."

All of this ignores the feelings of men who want to be comforted and relaxed on dates with women.
I'm not saying you should expect the level of service and sex you'd get from a prostitute.
The problem is that equivalent exchange is not taking place.

[More common among men] They don't make an effort to be liked by others.

I want you to love yourself just the way you are.
The man is the one who pays.

For these reasons, some people fail to make an effort to be liked by their partner, resulting in the other person being unwilling to enter into a relationship with them.
A typical example is,
His personal grooming lacks cleanliness (like having nose hairs sticking out),
Examples include not caring about or stopping things that the other person dislikes.

③ I don't really want to do sugar dating.

Because this psychology is at the root of it,
② They are unwilling to accept or compromise with the other person. People will appear.

In the case of women, they feel aversion towards their fathers.
I want to make money easily, but I don't want to have a pseudo-romance with an older man.

For men, the idea of ​​paying women money as compensation for a relationship is something they dislike and cannot accept.
I want to be in a relationship with a woman who will love me for who I am, without expecting anything in return.

Both of them secretly despise sugar dating,
They don't make an effort to see the good in others, and they find it difficult to lower their high ideals.
They tend to disappear quickly if they have even a slightly unpleasant experience.
Within the framework of "sugar dating," there is a low awareness of building trust with one's partner.
If it's difficult to change these feelings, then it's better not to engage in sugar dating.

Summary

The above explains the characteristics of people who are unsuccessful in sugar dating.
There's a reason why you might be struggling even if the specifications and conditions are fine.
First and foremost, it is important to identify the cause.

If you're unsure about what to do, we recommend consulting with a professional sugar daddy staff member.