[How-to] Adult guide for women new to sugar dating/how to turn down a date

Created: June 2022, 11

What prompted me to write this column?

When I went to a restaurant, I was able to decline without saying anything.

I used to often go to shared tables until about last year.
If the man you are sharing your table with is in the following situation, you can choose to spend the rest of the time together as a change of pace.
I turned down the proposal.

①Bushik
② No tact
3) Sexual harassment
④ Moral harassment
⑤…Generally, trash men

I was so disappointed that I couldn't even press the change button.
Dada Dada Dada DadaI remember going through it over and over again.

What do you do when you can't find a match when dating a sugar daddy?

In the meeting between men and women, which is called a "face-to-face meeting," both men and women

Have you ever yelled in your heart, "I can't do this!"?

Very hard to do...!
It pains me to spend more time with the opposite sex that I will never see again...

What do you do in such a situation?
Or rather, what should I do, what's the right answer?

I wonder if there are some girls who are looking for sugar daddies who think the same way?
This is what made me decide to write this article.

　

For women who are just starting out in sugar dating, knowing how to turn down a proposal for an adult relationship is a very important skill.
In this article, we'll explain in detail how to communicate your intentions clearly and without hurting the other person's feelings.

Why do people turn down adult relationships when dating sugar daddies?

There are many reasons why people decline adult relationships in sugar dating situations.
Although each reason has its own background and circumstances, they all have one thing in common:
Taking care of your own feelings should be your top priority.

Below are some typical reasons.

not attractive

The first reason is that
I don't feel attracted to the other person enough to develop an adult relationshipCan be mentioned.
Sugar daddy is a relationship that is based on mutual consent,
I think you should avoid getting into an adult relationship with someone you don't feel emotionally attracted to.

I feel there is a high risk

Being a dad comes with risks.
The risks are even greater when it comes to adult relationships.

Feeling that the other person cannot be trusted or by having an adult relationship
It can have a negative impact on your life and workIf you feel this way, you should decline.

The pay conditions are not suitable

Another reason to turn down an offer is if the terms of the offer do not meet your expectations.

Especially if you are looking for an adult relationship, and you feel that the conditions are not right after considering the risks,
There's no need to force yourself to accept it.

There are some disadvantages compared to other dads

You may feel that he is inferior in some way compared to other sugar daddies (good sugar daddies) that you meet regularly.

For example, the following factors may be compared:

Personality and values
Wavelength (fun to be with)
Social status
Whether or not there is romantic feeling
Amount of allowance

There are many different factors to compare,
You should avoid entering into an adult relationship with someone you are not comfortable with.

Specific ways to refuse

How you specifically decline is very important.
In order to communicate your intentions clearly and without hurting the other person,
Please refer to the following methods.

Express your feelings honestly

Being honest about your feelings is the most honest way to approach someone.

Being honest about it will make it easier for the other person to understand.

Tell them the conditions aren't right

It's a way of explaining that you can't have an adult relationship because it doesn't fit your desired criteria.
This leads some women to try to get the other person to turn them down themselves.

Due to differences in values

It is also effective to decline due to differences in values.

Some people say, ``I am a good person.''

In short, if you decline in a way that the other party can accept, I think it will be less likely to cause trouble.
This leads to one of the parties feeling unsatisfied because they don't understand what is going on, which can lead to trouble.

Because of her relationship with another man

Another option is to tell him that you already have another sugar daddy or boyfriend that you see regularly and leave the decision up to him.
Also, in some cases

This will make it easier for the other person to understand.

Examples of refusals suggested by staff

there may be complaints(If you met through clubs or introductions, etc.)
However, sometimes the answer comes back to me like this:

Model answer for staff

You have to refuse in a way that is clear to the other person.
I got them all excited and then I was bombarded with messages...

Here's a model answer for staff:

Honestly decline and give reasons.

And if you say...!If I say it from the bottom of my heart...!
But that being said, here are some ways of refusing that I have actually heard from members that I think are good:
I'd like to introduce some examples of this.

If you find it financially difficult

→ both men and womenPresent the amount that you think you can do one chance at this amount
It is that.

I think it's well thought out.
If the amount does not match, you can change it,Give the other person the choice and guide them
I was surprised when I first heard that the shape was amazing.

When you feel physically uncomfortable with the other person

For men

I handed over the transportation expenses early and left for some reason.

(Women will think it's a good deal and get a ▲ yen for ○ hours.)

I had a meeting with Payta for the first time in a while, but I lost my enthusiasm when I was informed that I would be late.
Just give them the promised allowance and then disband
Ah, what are you doing...?

— Chans (@SoHjryJOSt26f99) July 4, 2024

15 minutes…1.0🍵🥹🥹🥹🥹

— R (@ruuuuch________) March 31, 2022

Points to note

There are a few things to keep in mind when turning down an adult relationship.
Please keep the following points in mind to avoid any problems.

The risks of vague responses

A vague response may lead to misunderstandings.
"Let me think about it a bit more." "I like you too, but..."
Such ambiguous expressions make the other person expect that there is a possibility.
It is important to say no clearly.

Beware of rage and obsession

Some men become angry or obsessed with being rejected.

That's why it's important to remain calm and polite when declining.
You may also want to consider talking to friends and family for support.

Examples of Sugar Daddy Dating Failures and Lessons Learned

There are many examples of sugar dating success stories, but also failures.
By learning from those failures, you can have a safer and more successful sugar dating experience.

↓We are also waiting for your stories of how you failed to turn down a sugar daddy request!

How to refuse × How to avoid trouble

First of all, you should always think about self-defense measures.

It's also important to not push yourself and be honest with your feelings.
In order to prevent trouble, observe the other person carefully and determine whether they are trustworthy.
Is important.

If you are a club member: Tell a member of staff

Also, if you are registered with the club, please inform the staff in advance.
It would be good if they understood the whole picture, such as what the circumstances were and what your true feelings are.
If you receive a report,avoid misunderstandingsmaybe.

I try not to lie

You can also avoid the relationship by saying you're not ready to take things further (but you still have feelings for him), or that you're on your period.
It will probably work once or twice.

If this pattern continues, I remember this:

Even if you think you're doing well, there are times when you're not doing it well, so it's complicated.
daysLearning, challenging, and repeating trial and errorI think it 's.

If you have actually been turned down using such phrases, we would love to hear your reviews.