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November 2024, 08

[Shocking] Should I tell my boyfriend about my sugar daddy relationship? Or not?

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She started sugar dating with the goal of getting money.

Before you start, or after you start, you may find yourself thinking about having a boyfriend or girlfriend or partner.
Even though it is a way to get money, the fact that you are meeting with a member of the opposite sex and the possibility of a deep relationship between them can make you feel uncomfortable."Should I tell my girlfriend?"I think you may sometimes worry about this.

This time, should I tell my boyfriend that I'm a sugar baby, or should I keep quiet?
I will write down the criteria for making this decision and some points to be careful about.

Please use this as a reference for your ideas and data.🥺✨

First of all, are there people who have partners/lovers participating?

Since sugar dating is not the usual dating or marriage hunting, some people participate even if they already have a partner.
There are no rules about this and it is left up to each individual's values ​​and feelings.

Dating clubUniverse ClubRegarding the above, there is no item to directly confirm the marital status of the man during the interview. This is to avoid being considered as an infidelity brokerage.
However, when it comes to women, club staff will often check whether they have a partner or not.

I took a survey

As always, Oseki is conducting a sugar daddy survey on SNS (X).
This time, we divided the survey into men and women.

Here is the survey of women
This is a survey conducted on men.

Survey results (addendum)

I'll post the results when they are available and attach a graph to them.

I'm a little excited...!

The activity style of men and women who have a partner and are looking for a sugar daddy

Even though it's called sugar dating, there are many different ways to go about it.
Some people just go out for meals or dates, while others develop serious, deep relationships.
We also conducted a survey to find out what kind of activities both men and women do.

Brown rice only
Adults only (multiple partners)
Mistress style (relationship with only one person, including adults)
Chahan/Adults also have it, but with conditions such as no dating/Other

The survey was divided into four categories:

Women's Survey
Male Survey

Survey results (addendum)

Stay tuned for the results...!

Is there any benefit to telling your partner?

Even though sugar dating has become widespread in society, the reality is that it is not widely understood.
In this situation, is there any benefit to being honest with your partner? If so, what would it be?

Understanding your loverYou may be able to get

If you are working hard to achieve some goal or dream,
To achieve that goal"I'll support you in whatever decision you make"There are certainly men like that.

The sources are examples of people Osekichi knows in real life.


I don't really want to be with other guys, but...

・It is not something I do on my own initiative.
- You have a clear goal of quitting once the period and target amount are decided.


There are cases where they are approved under certain conditions.
Also, if it doesn't include an adult relationship, it's just going out to dinner or going on a date.The consent has been obtained on the condition that "a certain distance is maintained, and no physical contact or body contact is made."One woman said, ``.''

According to the man, the reasons are as follows:

I hate the idea of ​​my boyfriend hiding things from me more than the fact that he's a sugar baby.
I'm the type of person who distrusts things that are hidden from me, so
It's easier to support someone if they're honest with us.

Easier to maintain mental stability

I sometimes hear that sugar dating is full of lies and deception.
As a result, you may become ``tired'' from all sorts of factors, such as the interactions and negotiations with the sugar daddies, or the teasing and cancellations at the last minute, or you may become ``sick'' from having a physical relationship with a man you don't like.

At times like these, by confiding your feelings to your lover or partner, who is your emotional support,
It will be easier to change your mindset and return to a positive attitude because of the sense of security that comes from being accepted.

👇Tweets from a girl looking for a sugar daddy, approved by her boyfriend

It also leads to mental stability, and another benefit may be that it allows women to completely accept sugar dating as a way to make money without feeling guilty, which helps them avoid getting sick.

It helps to avoid risk in case something happens

When dating as a sugar daddy, you may have to meet in a closed room such as a hotel, and there is an aspect of it that is risky as you don't know where the other person is or what they are doing.
At that time, some PJsBy telling your boyfriend "I will be at XX at XX" at XX,
You can avoid getting involved in any crime or rush to the scene immediately.We are taking measures to do so.

It also helps to protect yourself!

Without my knowledgeBeing involved in a problem or incident
I won't be left out until the end...

The benefits of not telling your partner

There are benefits to telling your partner, but as a staff member, I think that there are overwhelmingly more benefits to not telling your partner. So, what are the benefits of not telling your partner?

Secrets are kept
You can avoid trouble
Reduce mental stress

Secrets are kept

Sugar daddy is,Although the image is generally good,not.
No matter how much of a lover or partner you are, in reality you are still a stranger.

If you tell your partner that you are not aware of the truth about sugar dating, unnecessary negative feelings and doubts will run through your mind."It seems like my girlfriend is looking for a sugar daddy..."You may also consult with them.

I think that's definitely the reaction at that time.

Break up with her immediately...

Possible deterioration of relationships,The possibility of separationIt's best to not let this option cross your partner's mind.

Even if you don't have a direct relationship with your partner's friends

His girlfriend is apparently looking for a sugar daddy...

This is because rumors can spread without your knowledge.

Unless you tell anyone and they see you walking with your sugar daddy, the fact that you are dating a sugar daddy will not be revealed.You can protect your reputationThis is perhaps the biggest advantage.

You can avoid trouble

When I confessed to my girlfriend that I was a sugar daddy,TroubleIt may also lead to.
Even though it's called sugar dating, it's a way to make money by building a relationship with someone of the opposite sex who is not you.

Unlike hostesses or prostitutes, building a personal relationship means
Although I want to be confided in and trusted, it is difficult to understand.

There are so many ways this can happen.
When I was working at a dating club, my boyfriend looked at my phone without my permission and suddenly

My boyfriend saw my phone and I could no longer continue my sugar daddy relationship.
I'm sorry, but I have to cancel today's date.

I continued to receive this type of message over and over again.

Women who are looking for a sugar daddy make their boyfriend feel at ease
It must be hard...

Surprisingly, men tend to get jealous...

Reduce mental stress

Telling your partner about your sugar daddy relationship ismental burdenmay be large.
Of course, when you confess or before that

I'm scared of my boyfriend's reaction

The guilt of lying

Because there is a high possibility that you will have these kinds of anxieties, even if you confide in your partner and let them know everything, you will likely have doubts and anxieties like the following, even if it doesn't lead to a breakup.

I said I'd support you, but if you really like me
Normally, wouldn't someone tell you to stop dating a sugar daddy?

Am I truly loved?

I wonder if he thinks I'm not worthy of him, that I'm a whore.

This means that you will now begin to doubt the true feelings of the person who accepted you.
"Ah! I feel relieved that I don't have to hide anything anymore!"This sense of relief is short-lived, as the next stage brings with it a different type of worry.

If that's the case, it seems like it would make the same thing whether you say it or not.

Are there people who feel guilty about being a sugar baby? Survey

We also conducted a survey.
Separately for men and women,

▼A question for those who have a partner such as a lover/husband/wife who is (was) a sugar baby.
In response to the question, "Do you ever feel guilty towards your partner for being/having been a sugar baby?"

Yes (brown rice only)
Yes (adult related)
No (brown rice only)
No (adult related)

We asked each person to choose from the following options.

Stay tuned for the results!

What would happen if you actually told your boyfriend?

We also conducted a survey.
Based on the possibility that things may move in a negative direction and unexpectedly turn into a positive

・Are there any P-sans or PJ-sans who have actually confessed to being sugar daddies?
What will the results be?

We conducted a survey asking the following question.

There are P-san and PJ-san who have admitted to being involved in sugar dating.

▼A question for those who have a partner such as a lover/husband/wife who is (was) a sugar baby.
Regarding your sugar daddy activities (or have you been)? Have you told your partner that you are a sugar daddy? (Does your partner know?)

In response to this question, we have created four options:

  1. Communicating (activity style: only tea and rice x really only tea and rice) 24.1%
  2. Telling (including adults): 6.9%
  3. Yes (adults do too, but only tell them they are eating) 17.2%
  4. Nothing is being conveyed (including adults)
for women
Men's

Possibility of deterioration of relationship with partner

This is by far the most common reaction I can imagine.
Basically, people who are aware that they are doing things that are criticized by society will understand, but just because your partner is doing something that is criticized by society doesn't change your image of sugar dating.

Your perspective on sugar daddy will change

I think that's more likely.
Conversely, it might be a good idea to think about how you would feel if your partner was looking for a sugar daddy/mom.

All I see is the other person as a source of money!

You may wonder what is going on with your partner who only sees the opposite sex as a source of income, even if they are older than you.
If your lover is the daddy who gives you money,

I don't have any feelings for PJ, I'm just after her body!
I wanted to enjoy my young body in a different way than usual!

How would you feel if someone said that to you? What do you think?
Some people may be okay with that, but I think most people would be shocked.

That's the gist of it.

As a result, they may despise you or change their opinion of you.
If you want to continue the relationshipBeing told to stop being a dadI think that's the most common thing.

Possibility of choosing to break up

It might just be a change of perspective.
However, sometimes when you just can't accept it, you may choose to break up.

I can't trust women who are kind of obsessive-compulsive or who are looking for a sugar daddy
This may result in your partner breaking up with you for reasons such as not understanding of sugar dating or being shocked that you have been hiding something from them.

It's a realistic story, but there are times when we accept it.
Some people feel that they will never be accepted by others.
It may be important to think of it this way.

There is a possibility that they will accept

There may be some men out there who will accept that you are a sugar baby.
I know some girls who are looking for sugar daddies with their boyfriends' approval, and my younger sister was also a hostess who was also looking for sugar daddies, but my husband knew about it.

However, my younger sister was a sugar daddy without any physical relationship, and my brother-in-law who would become my husband

Once you have saved up some money, I want you to quit your job that involves contact with the opposite sex as soon as possible.

That's the impression I got from him always saying that.

👇In fact, I found examples on social media of men who knew that their partner was (was) engaged in sugar dating, but still "loved them for that."

It is obvious that there are many different ways of thinking among people in the world, for better or worse.
It might be good to know that what is normal for you may not be normal for others.

We conducted a survey to see if there have been any changes in relationships with partners.

We also conducted a survey with the same questions.

▼This is a question for those who have a partner such as a lover/husband/wife who is (was) a sugar baby and have "told/been found out about" their sugar baby activities.
How did your partner react to the fact that you were/are a sugar baby? Has there been any change in your relationship?

Please answer this question with the following options:

  1. Negative reactions such as disgust, contempt, and anger (did not lead to a breakup)
  2. Negative reactions such as disgust, contempt, and anger (resulting in a breakup)
  3. Although it was not a good reaction, he reluctantly understood after hearing the situation (they did not break up).
  4. Very interested/rather supportive... an unexpected response (no breakup)

Answers for women
Men's

I'll post again once the results are out!

Is it okay if I don't tell my boyfriend about my sugar daddy relationship?

Now let's consider one last factor when deciding whether or not to actually tell your partner.

What are the chances of being found out/are there any countermeasures?
Know what to do if you get caught


Consider this element.

What are the chances of it being discovered?

Honestly, about sugar daddyIt is impossible to say for sure that it will never be found out.
This is because a person's inherent "pinch" plays a very important role.

No matter how careful you are, your partner may see you.
It's possible that your partner's friends may find out.

The world is sometimes connected in unexpected ways.
It is important to remember that sliding doors have ears and sliding doors have eyes.

So it's impossible to carry out your activities without being discovered?

That's not the case.
To be honest, it's impossible to avoid being found out 100%, but I think you can prevent it from happening more than 90% of the time depending on your own actions.

The most important thing is to not give the other person any suspicion that you might be looking for a sugar daddy.

She's been acting strange lately...
There's something strange...

The key point is not to think this way.

Factors that make you suspect she might be a sugar daddy

The common traits of women who are found out to be sugar-daddy-dating are:Even if you think you haven't changed, others see you as different.There is a point.
What are the main changes?

Recently, he has been spending a lot of money
Frequently buying expensive branded items
Suddenly, life patterns changed
I started taking taxis more easily.
The style of dating attire has changed
The accessories have changed to more luxurious ones I've never seen before.
Photos of French, Italian, and non-conveyor belt sushi restaurants have started appearing on Instagram stories


Does anybody have any idea?
It's possible that you may be hinting at your sugar daddy to your partner.

The most important thing to do in order to have a peaceful sugar daddy life is to reexamine your own behavior.

In any case, don't act differently than you normally do!
If you act differently than usual, it's like you're asking for my suspicions.

Measures to avoid being found out and what to do if you are found out

Above all, prevention and countermeasures are the best way to "keep your partner from finding out," but to summarize, it's a good idea to keep the following points in mind.

Make sure your smartphone can't be seen (in some cases, have two phones)
Understand your partner's range of activities and patterns
Don't meet in places your lover might go
When topics like cheating or sugar dating come up, deny them completely.
Remember as many conversations as possible with your boyfriend and your dad

I will write about why it is good to keep this in mind in a separate article later, but
In the past, there was a column on sugar daddy dating.CinderellaWritten in记事Please also see.

👇You can read it here

👇It is very important to take measures to prevent your identity from being revealed, not just to your lover.
Please also refer to this article for information on measures to prevent your identity being revealed.

Summary: Understand that sugar dating means keeping secrets

So far, we have introduced, through surveys and articles, the factors and reasons that people consider when deciding whether or not to tell their partner about their sugar dating activities.

In my opinion

It is easy to start a sugar daddy relationship, but the act of "sugar daddy dating" itself is a secret.
It becomes a past that haunts me forever.about

If the people involved in the activities don't understand that it is not something to be loud and proud about,
Easily caught off guard by the ill will and intentions of othersThat

I want you to keep this in mind no matter what decision you make.

Or lovers,Sometimes even your partner doesn't understandLet's understand that 🥺✨
I think it might be easier if you accept that there are few people who can fully understand sugar dating.

Don't think too much about it, because accepting everything doesn't mean love.
The things you are worried about are also worried about by other PJs, so you are not alone.

Look forward and use this sugar daddy activity as motivation to work towards your goals!

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