Why is there no one I want to date? Causes and solutions

There are no people I want to date on sugar daddy apps or in dating clubs

"I've been using sugar daddy apps and dating clubs, but I haven't found anyone I want to date."

"I went to an interview for a dating club, but when I saw the actual members, there was no one I wanted to date, so I decided not to sign up."

I'm sure some of you have had a similar experience.
As a staff member, I hear comments like the one above quite often.
You want to go on a date, so you waste your precious time, or in the case of men, money, to join the app club.
It's frustrating when there's no one you want to meet.

First, let's think together about why there's no one you want to date.
We will also explain the appropriate solutions for each cause.
Perhaps there are some people for whom sugar dating in general is not suited to them.

3 reasons why no one wants to date you

There are roughly three reasons why someone might not have anyone they want to date.

①High level of demand

They have high standards when it comes to partners, and there are few people who meet their expectations among those registered on apps or in clubs.
This is the case.
The following people are more likely to fall into this trap:

Your own specs are high
・Has had a lot of romantic experience and has been popular all his life
・Looking for visuals on the level of popular celebrities
・They believe in the glittering information on the internet and social media that is like a lottery.
(Example: (Woman) Get 50 yen just for dinner, (Man) Sign an exclusive contract with a weak-knowing beautiful college student for 3 yen)

There are people for both men and women who can meet the allowance budget,

[Daddy up to 40s, clean and plain sex, 1 hour date, "7 yen allowance"]
[PJ in her early 20s, the most beautiful girl in her grade, with no experience of sugar dating, "1 yen allowance"]

As the number of conditions increases as mentioned above, the number of potential partners decreases dramatically.

If the chance of finding someone who meets your desired criteria is low, you will need to increase the denominator.
By registering for multiple apps and dating clubs at the same time, you can increase the number of people you can date.
You can find a certain number of people who meet your needs.
This is especially effective in cases where you have high specs and find it difficult to find a partner.
*If you hide high-level spec information on your profile, the difficulty level will increase dramatically.

Be aware that this will take time and money.
An easy example is when a man wants to date a young, beautiful woman.
PJ has the looks of a popular celebrity.
Maybe I can meet 3,000 people through the app,
Another option is to join a dating club that has connections with entertainment agencies.
However, in either case, the fees and costs of dating a woman are generally high.
If your monthly budget is up to 5 yen, give up and face reality.

In addition,
・I've met 10 people and have been acting in a sensible manner towards dating, but I can't find a partner who meets my desired criteria.
・I've signed up for multiple apps and even after two weeks, I still haven't made any plans to meet up

In the above case,
That's a sign you're being too ambitious.
Reassess your relationship terms and the amount of information you're willing to disclose on your profile.
In some cases, the situation can be improved by reviewing your own behavior toward others.

Just like marriage hunting, sugar dating is also

A relationship will work if the partner and conditions are "appropriate" and "matchable."

If you can't honestly face your own specs and think, "I'll compromise and date you,"
Both men and women are not doing well in the activity.
Above all, it's a shame that this is causing stress for the person. No one benefits from this.

② There are few local users

The culture of sugar dating has now spread throughout Japan, with an increasing number of men and women engaging in sugar dating even in rural areas.
However, Tokyo remains the most convenient place for sugar daddies.
The more rural the area, the more difficult it is to find a sugar daddy and the harder it is to find a partner.

If you want to know if there are enough potential partners in your area,
Create a free account for the sugar daddy app to check the list of users,
You can go to an interview at a dating club and ask the staff about the number of people you are looking for.

Also, if there is an opportunity to travel
If you choose to find a sugar daddy in a city, you are more likely to find a relationship that meets your desired criteria.

3) It's hard to develop a positive impression based on a profile alone

Compared to dating and love-finding matching apps, profiles on sugar daddy apps contain less information,
There's also a high possibility that it contains a lie.
Some people may not be interested or impressed by the profile text and photos alone.

There are also two laws called "principle of choice aversion" and "principle of loss aversion":
When people have too many options, they don't want to choose from them, and they all seem mediocre.
As a result, there is a psychological phenomenon of refraining from dating.

So, when do you feel satisfied with your sugar daddy activities?
It's when you have a casual relationship with the woman you like and get the support you want.
Naturally, you will feel satisfied and glad that you tried sugar dating after meeting your partner, not before.

In conclusion, if superficial information alone isn't enough to pique your interest, it's important to increase the number of face-to-face meetings.
You can't know if you get along or like each other until you actually meet.

For example, a man who only wants to date one person may schedule dates with three people.
I thought A-san, the most beautiful girl, was my favorite, but
When I actually met Mr. B, I found him to be very charming and we had great conversations, so we started dating.
This is something that happens on a daily basis.

However, many of the men who engage in sugar dating are successful in society and are often very busy.
To save time by having to date 100 people you are not interested in and then choosing one,
I recommend joining a dating club.

The biggest difference between sugar daddy apps and dating clubs is,
At dating clubs, staff meet with all men and women to evaluate them and then prepare an introduction.
To repeat, profiles on sugar daddy apps often contain very little information.
In the case of dating clubs, professional staff will write down the characteristics of each woman and, depending on the person, any concerns she may have in her profile. The amount and quality of information is incomparable.
At many clubs, photos and videos are taken by staff, and in the case of Universe, no editing is done whatsoever.
We guarantee that disappointing meeting incidents will be drastically reduced.

The ease of use of the app and the quality of the dating club

PATOLO is highly recommended for those who want to experience dating club quality sugar dating on a budget.

・Only users who have passed the screening and are looking for sugar daddy
・Providing a comprehensive profile
・No need to negotiate allowances or meeting fees
・The industry's first sugar daddy blacklist system
・Staff will mediate disputes